BEWARE! IF YOUR CHILD IS AN “INDEPENDENT THINKER” THEY MAY HAVE “PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDER”

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I finally found the text of what Dr. William Bernet submitted for consideration for inclusion in the DSM-V, the diagnostic bible used by ethical psychologists/psychiatrists and Court Whores alike.   Dr. Bernet and some of the magical “50 professionals” (who all make a significant portion of their income promoting this) were recently at the Denver AFCC (Association of Family and Conciliation Courts – the father’s rights-leaning association for judges and court whores) conference and engaged in debate with Dr. Peter Jaffe and others about the so-called “parental alienation disorder.”  The text below came from that conference.

As one with multiple scientific degrees, I was very interested in seeing the proposal.  I found it to be more of a sales pitch instead of one scientifically driven.  What I found most laughable was on the diagnostic criteria it included “independent thinker phenomenon.”  Yes, it ACTUALLY says this towards the end.   How far out can these court whores reach to bizarro world?  What is scary is that if the DSM-V committee buys this drivel, the court whores and lawyers will be unleashed to destroy children and their families.

This proposal barely mentions that children may be come afraid of a parent because of the actions of that parent.  This includes seeing a parent abuse and beat the other parent, or maybe the child themselves.  The child may be sexually abused by a parent, therefore may not want to be alone with that parent.  Research has shown that the number one reason children refuse to visit a parent is because of the behavior of that parent.

The DSM-V has not been adopted at this point, nor is there any agreement that the following diagnosis should be added.

Proposed Text for Parental Alienation Disorder in DSM-V

DIAGNOSTIC FEATURES

The essential feature of parental alienation disorder is that a child – usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict divorce – allies himself or herself strongly with one parent (the preferred parent) and rejects a relationship with the other parent (the alienated parent) without legitimate justification. The primary behavioral symptom is the child’s resistance or refusal to have contact with the alienated parent (Criterion A).

The behaviors in the child that characterize parental alienation disorder include a persistent campaign of denigration against the alienated parent and weak, frivolous, and absurd rationalizations for the child’s criticism of the alienated parent (Criterion B).

The following clinical features frequently occur in parental alienation disorder, especially when the child’s symptoms reach a level that is moderate or severe (Criterion C). Lack of ambivalence refers to the child’s belief that the alienated parent is all bad and the preferred parent is all good. The independent-thinker phenomenon means that the child proudly states the decision to reject the alienated parent is his own, not influenced by the preferred parent. Reflexive support of the preferred parent against the alienated parent refers to the pattern of the child’s immediately and automatically taking the preferred parent’s side in a disagreement. The child may exhibit a disregard for the feelings of the alienated parent and an absence of guilt over exploitation of the alienated parent. The child may manifest borrowed scenarios, that is, rehearsed statements that are identical to those made by the preferred parent. Also, the child’s animosity toward the alienated parent may spread to that parent’s extended family.

The diagnosis of parental alienation disorder should not be used if the child’s refusal to have contact with the rejected parent is justifiable, for example, if the child was neglected or abused by that parent (Criterion D).
ASSOCIATED FEATURES

Parental alienation disorder may be mild, moderate, or severe. When theparental alienation disorder is mild, the child may briefly resist contact with the alienated parent, but does have contact and enjoys a good relationship with the alienated parent once they are together.

When the parental alienation disorder is mild, the child may have a strong, healthy relationship with both parents, even though the child recites criticisms of the alienated parent.

When the parental alienation disorder is moderate, the child may persistently resist

contact with the alienated parent and will continue to complain and criticize the alienated parent during the contact. The child is likely to have a mildly to moderately pathological relationship with the preferred parent.

When the parental alienation disorder is severe, the child strongly and persistently resists contact and may hide or run away to avoid seeing the alienated parent. The child’s behavior is driven by a firmly held, false belief that the alienated parent is evil, dangerous, or worthless.  The child is likely to have a strong, severely pathological relationship with the preferred parent, perhaps sharing a paranoid worldview.

While the diagnosis of parental alienation disorder refers to the child, the preferred parent and other persons the child is dependent on may manifest the following attitudes and behaviors, which frequently are the major cause of the disorder: persistent criticisms of the rejected parent’s personal qualities and parenting activities; statements that influence the child to fear, dislike, and criticize the alienated parent; and various maneuvers to exclude the rejected parent from the child’s life. The behavior of the preferred parent may include complaints to the police and child protection agencies with allegations about the rejected parent.

Parental alienation disorder may be the basis for false allegations of sexual abuse against the alienated parent. The preferred parent may be litigious to the point of abusing the legal system. The preferred parent may violate court orders that are not to his or her liking. Specific psychological problems – narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, traumatic childhood experiences, and paranoid traits – may be identified in these individuals.  Also, the rejected parent may manifest the following attitudes and behaviors, which may be a minor or contributory cause of the disorder: lack of warm, involved parenting; deficient parenting skills; and lack of time dedicated to parenting activities. However, the intensity and duration of the child’s refusal to have contact with the rejected parent is far out of proportion to the relatively minor weaknesses in the rejected parent’s parenting skills.

Although parental alienation disorder most often arises in the context of a child custody dispute between two parents, it can arise in other types of conflicts over child custody, such as a dispute between a parent and stepparent or between a parent and a grandparent. Sometimes, other family members – such as stepparents or grandparents – contribute to the creation of parental alienation disorder. On occasion, other individuals – such as therapists and child protection workers – contribute to the creation of parental alienation disorder by encouraging or supporting the child’s refusal to have contact with the alienated parent. Also, parental alienation disorder does not necessarily appear in the context of divorce litigation, but may occur in intact families or years following the divorce.

DIFFERENTIAL DIAGNOSIS

It is common for children to resist or avoid contact with the noncustodial parent after the parents separate or divorce. There are several possible explanations for a child’s active rejection of contact. Parental alienation disorder is an important, but not the only, reason that children refuse contact.

In the course of normal development children will become polarized with one parent and then the other depending on the child’s developmental stage and events in the child’s life. When parents disagree, it is normal for children to experience loyalty conflicts. These transitory variationsin a child’s relationship with his or her parents do not meet criteria for parental alienation disorder because they do not constitute “a persistent rejection or denigration of a parent that reaches the level of a campaign.”

If the child actually was abused, neglected, or disliked by the noncustodial parent or the current boyfriend or girlfriend of that parent, the child’s animosity may be justified and it is understandable that the child would not want to visit the rejected parent’s household. If abuse were the reason for the child’s refusal, the diagnosis would be physical abuse of child or sexual abuse of child, not parental alienation disorder. This is important to keep in mind because an abusive, rejected parent may misuse the concept of parental alienation disorder in order to falsely blame the child’s refusal of contact on the parent that the child prefers. Inshared psychotic disorder, a delusional parent may influence a child to believe that the other parent is an evil person who must be feared and avoided. Inparental alienation disorder, the alienating parent may have very strong opinions about the alienated parent, but is not usually considered out of touch with reality.

When parents separate or divorce, a child with separation anxiety disorder may become even more worried and anxious about being away from the primary caretaker. In separation anxiety disorder, the child is preoccupied with unrealistic fears that something will happen to the primary caretaker, while the child with parental alienation disorder is preoccupied with unrealistic beliefs that the alienated parent is dangerous.

It is conceivable that a child with specific phobia, situational type, might have an unreasonable fear of a parent or some aspect of the parent’s household. A child with a specific phobia is unlikely to engage in a persistent campaign of denigration against the feared object, while the campaign of denigration is a central feature of parental alienation disorder.

When parents separate or divorce, a child with oppositional defiant disordermay become even more symptomatic – angry, resentful, stubborn – and not want to participate in the process of transitioning from one parent to the other. Inoppositional defiant disorder, the child is likely to be oppositional with both parents in a variety of contexts, while the child with parental alienation disorderis likely to focus his or her negativism on the proposed contact with the alienated parent and also to engage in the campaign of denigration of that parent.

When parents separate or divorce, a child may develop an adjustment disorderas a reaction to the various stressors related to the divorce including discord between the parents, the loss of a relationship with a parent, and the disruption of moving to a new neighborhood and school. A child with an adjustment disordermay have a variety of nonspecific symptoms including depression, anxious mood, and disruptive behaviors, while the child with parental alienation disordermanifests a specific cluster of symptoms including the campaign of denigration and weak, frivolous rationalizations for the child’s persistent criticism of the alienated parent.

Parent-child relational problem (a V-code) is the appropriate diagnosis if the focus of clinical attention is on the relationship between a child and his or her divorced parents, but the symptoms do not meet the criteria for a mental disorder. For example, a rebellious adolescent may not have a specific mental disorder, but may temporarily refuse to have contact with one parent even though both parents have encouraged him to do so and a court has ordered it. On the other hand,parental alienation disorder should be the diagnosis if the child’s symptoms are persistent enough and severe enough to meet the criteria for that disorder.

DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA FOR PARENTAL ALIENATION DISORDER

A. The child – usually one whose parents are engaged in a high-conflict divorce – allies himself or herself strongly with one parent and rejects a relationship with the other, alienated parent without legitimate justification. The child resists or refuses contact or parenting time with the alienated parent.

B. The child manifests the following behaviors:

• a persistent rejection or denigration of a parent that reaches the level of a
• campaign
• weak, frivolous, and absurd rationalizations for the child’s persistent criticism of the rejected parent

C. The child manifests two or more of the following six attitudes and behaviors:

(1) lack of ambivalence

(2) independent-thinker phenomenon

(3) reflexive support of one parent against the other

(4) absence of guilt over exploitation of the rejected parent

(5) presence of borrowed scenarios

(6) spread of the animosity to the extended family of the rejected parent.

D. The duration of the disturbance is at least 2 months.

E. The disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social academic (occupational), or other important areas of functioning.

F. The child’s refusal to have contact with the rejected parent is without legitimate justification. That is, parental alienation disorder is not diagnosed if the rejected parent maltreated the child.

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June 30, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

WOMAN SUFFRAGE IN THE UNITED STATES

WOMAN SUFFRAGE IN THE UNITED STATES.

The Nineteenth Amendment, called the Susan B. Anthony Amendment, was ratified by Tennessee August 18, 1920. It became law August 26, 1920. Women in the United States gained the vote in 1920 after 72 years of the LARGEST civil rights movement in the history of the world.

What are we going to do with it now?

IN THIS COLLECTION:

THE WOMAN SUFFRAGE TIMELINE
Do you know what REALLY happened?

ABIGAIL ADAMS’S LETTERS TO JOHN ADAMS
She: " We will foment a rebellion."
He:  "We will fight the despotism of the petticoat."
THE WOMAN SUFFRAGE TIMELINE BOOK LIST
References and materials used in preparation of the Timeline.
THE 1848 DECLARATION OF SENTIMENTS
The official commencement of the women’s movement at Seneca Falls, NY. THIS SITE IS NOT JUST ABOUT VOTING RIGHTS, IS IT.
Voting rights are not just about voting, are they.

THE ABOLITIONIST MOVEMENT
A comment on the the abolitionist movement
and its connection with woman suffrage.
Sojourner Truth‘s Ain’t I A Woman speech.

WHAT WAS THE E.R.A. REALLY ABOUT?
U.S. Commission Report June 1981

WOMEN’S LIBRARY OF HISTORICAL DOCUMENTS
Primary Source Documents; Women of Achievement

FATHERLESS AMERICA
The Childhoods of Historical Figures in American History

LIZNOTES:
Family Law in the United States

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DID YOU KNOW: A little more than twenty years ago, married women in some U.S. States did not have the right to manage their own property, and all household property was deemed to belong to the husband upon divorce. 

DID YOU KNOW: Only a few short years ago, it remained legal in seven states for a husband to rape his wife.  

DID YOU KNOW: In 1981, the Federal Work Incentive Program, three out of four of whose participants were women, was required by law to give jobs preference to men, who also received jobs paying an average of 34% more per hour.

Husbands by law routinely were defined as "head of the household."

Hundreds of laws overtly discriminated against women, and
thousands of laws discriminated in effect.

Think by now it’s all been "fixed?"   Think again!

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RELATED RESOURCES:

BASIC READINGS IN U.S. DEMOCRACY

DOCUMENTS FROM THE WOMEN’S LIBERATION MOVEMENT

LIVING THE LEGACY: 150 YEARS 1848-1998
Sponsored by the National Women’s History Project

NATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR WOMEN
Many articles, including:
Twiss Butler’s notes for a debate on feminism
(References at end to women’s rights histories.)
The intentional exclusion of women
from the U.S. Constitution
Chronology of the E.R.A. 1923-1996
ERA history timeline
NOW’s Current E.R.A. Campaign

NATIONAL WOMEN’S HISTORY PROJECT

UNITED STATES CONSTITUTION, THE
The complete text, annotated at Cornell University — and more

WITCH CRAZE TIMELINE

WOMEN AND SOCIAL MOVEMENTS IN THE UNITED STATES

WOMEN’S HALL OF FAME

WOMEN’S HISTORY LIBRARY | WOMEN OF ACHIEVEMENT
Documents formerly at undelete.org, being regathered here.

WOMEN’S RESOURCES AT THE LIZ LIBRARY

Read about Jerrie Cobb and the Mercury 13.

THE LIZ LIBRARY   |  SUFFRAGE MAIN PAGE

SUFFRAGE TIMELINE   |  WOMEN’S HISTORY

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June 30, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

(KS) HAL RICHARDSON-CRIMINAL PARENTAL INTERFERNCE, CONTEMPT, CRIMINAL CUSTODIAL INTERFERNCE, ABUSE, KIDNAPPING, HOSTAGE-and gets away with it!

I am STILL waiting for a hearing date to advance this… well I have been waiting 15 years for any justice—and I guess we will still wait longer. Now, IF I put the tribute Video of my dead mother and daughter up—I’d be in court in two days—( past experience)

AND, IN CONTEMPT AGAIN for —the powerful LOVE that is shown between three generations in that TRIBUTE VIDEO, LOVE HOPE & EMPOWERMENT

Recall they did not allow child to even attend her Grandmothers funeral. (re-listening as I hyperlinked to this-UNREAL brings me back down to the reality of the genocide)

But, I was found in Contempt. Daddy dearest as we all know—can beat the shit out of his daughters mother through out the years—and they call it as “MOM is not ‘co-parenting’. WTF"?

Yes this IS Justice. Raped, Blind folded gagged and rolled in the mud- then the gang bang begins again.

Welcome to mandatory shared parenting, and the abusers right lobby (aka fathers Rights, Parental Alienation, PAS whatever oppressive coined term of the day) to continue to abuse.

Welcome to the Fathers Rights Movement.

Welcome to hell.

American Mothers Political Party: coming soon:  www.AmericanMothersPoliticalParty.org

and-We Will Be Victorious

So Halleck G Richardson II, Owner of Minuteman Solar Film Topeka, Kansas. Your Reign of Terror can not last forever-

When I despair, I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won. There have been tyrants and murderers and for a time they seem invincible, but in the end, they always fall––think of it–always. –Mahatma Gandhi

That–and Karma IS a bitch. The Universal Justice.

 

01/29/2010 MISC. Petitioner in person and by Jason Hoffman. Respondent in person and by Robert E. Duncan, II. G.A.L., Jill Dykes, present. Court Reporter: Digital Div. 13. Motion #88 to find Respondent in Contempt and Motion #87 by Respondent to Modify Visitation before Court.

Evidence presented – Court finds Petitioner has failed to prove an intentional violation of Court’s prior orders by Respondent and denies motion to find Respondent in contempt.

Court finds minor child has serious concerns about parenting time with mother but they do not rise to the level that would seriously endanger child’s physical, mental, moral or emotional health per K.S.A. 60-1616(a). Further, reasons for ordering supervised parenting time in 2004 were not presented in the evidence, minor child is 15 now and it is in best interest of child that both parents have relationship with child.

Court orders unsupervised parenting time from 1:00 p.m. to 3:00 p.m. every Sunday, starting January 31, 2010 – exchanges at LEC, parenting time to be exercised in public within boundary of Shawnee County, Kansas. Neither parent to discuss divorce, proceedings or other parent with child. Respondent allowed to call daughter every Tuesday and Thursday between 8:00 p.m and 9:00 p.m. for 1/2 hour. Respondent to pay her remaining balance at Odyssey. Court will review case on March 2, 2010 at 8:30 a.m. to determine if parenting time should be expanded. Duncan to do JE. DBD

Soooo what has happened?? Ya think any part of this Order was followed? nope, custody hell in Kansas continues (Coercive Control)

DIRECT VIOLATIONS OF THE COURTS ORDER JANUARY 29^TH, 2010

CRIMINAL PARENTAL INTERFERNCE, CONTEMPT, CRIMINAL CUSTODIAL INTERFERNCE, ABUSE, KIDNAPPING AND HOSTAGE

1. February 2^nd, 2010 Tuesday 8:15 PM- CALL DENIED.

2. February 3^rd, 2010 Wednesday- 7:39 PM- CALL DENIED.

3. February 4^th, 2010 Thursday- 8:30 PM –CALL DENIED.

4. February 9^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:00 PM -CALL DENIED.

5. February 16^th 2009 Tuesday 8:30 PM –CALL DENIED.

6. February 18^th, 2010 8:00 PM- CALL DENIED.

7. February 21^st, 2010 12:20 PM VISIT CANCELLED.

8. February 23^rd, 2010 Tuesday 8:30 pm- CALL DENIED.

9. March 2, 2010 Tuesday 8:30 pm –CALL DENIED.

10. March 4^th, 2010 Thursday 8:29 PM- CALL DENIED.

11. March 9^th 2010 Tuesday 8:45 PM-CALL DENIED.

12. March 11, 2010 Thursday 8: 50 PM-CALL DENIED.

13. March 16^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:05 PM- CALL DENIED.

14. March 18^th, 2010 Thursday 8:27 PM-CALL DENIED.

15. March 23^rd, 2010 Tuesday 8:35 PM-CALL DENIED.

16. March 25^th, 2010 Thursday 8:15 PM- CALL DENIED.

17. March 30^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:05 PM-CALL DENIED.

18. April 1^st, 2010 Thursday 2010 8:15 PM –CALL DENIED.

19. April 6^th, 2010 Tuesday, 8:10 PM-CALL DENIED.

20. April 8^th, 2010 Thursday 8:25 PM-CALL DENIED.

21. April 15^th, 2010 Thursday 8:37 PM –CALL DENIED.

22. April 20^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:25 PM-CALL DENIED.

23. April 22^nd, 2010 Thursday 8:18 PM-CALL DENIED.

24. April 27^TH, 2010 Tuesday 8:25 PM-CALL DENIED.

25. April 29^th, 2010 Thursday 7:55 PM-CALL DENIED.

26. May 4^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:30 PM-CALL DENIED.

27. May 6^th, 2010 Wednesday 8:27 PM-CALL DENIED.

28. May 9^th, 2010 Sunday Visit- Mothers day–VISIT LATE BY TEN MINUTES

29. May 13^th, 2010 Thursday 8:05 PM –CALL DENIED

30. May 16^TH, 2010 Sunday Visit-VISIT LATE NINE MINUTES

31. May 18^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:07 PM-CALL DENIED

32. May 20^th, 2010 Thursday 8:20 PM -CALL DENIED.

33. May 23^rd, 2010 Sunday- VISIT CANCELLED.

34. May 25^th, 2010 Tuesday-8:15 pm -CALL DENIED.

35. May 27^th, 2010 Thursday- 8:28 CALL DENIED.

36. May 30^th, 2010 Sunday Visit –VISIT LATE BY TWENTY MINUTES.

37. June 1, 2010 Tuesday 8:20PM-CALL DENIED.

38. June 3, 2010 Thursday 8:00 PM –CALL DENIED

39. June 6, 2010 Sunday Visit-1:15 PM VISIT LATE BY FIFTEEN MINUTES.

40. June 8, 2010 Tuesday 8:05 PM-CALL DENIED

41. June 10, 2010 Thursday 8:25 PM-CALL DENIED

42. June 13, 2010 Sunday 1:00 PM –VISIT CANCELLED.

43. June 15^th, 2010 Tuesday 8:20 PM= CALL DENIED.

44. June 17^th, 2010 Thursday 8:15 PM – CALL DENIED.

45. June 20^th, 2010 SUNDAY VISIT- NO SHOW- NO CALL

46. June 22^nd, 2010 TUESDAY 8:00 PM –CALL DENIED

47. June 24^th, 20100 Thursday 8:15 PM-CALL DENIED

48. June 27^th, 2010 SUNDAY 1:00 PM VISIT- DENIED

49. June 29^th, 2010 Tuesday -8:10 PM- CALL DENIED

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) Stuart Showalter Neo Nazi-Fathers Rights Advocate-Abusers Rights Advocate Glenn Sacks-Abusers Advocate,Right Wing Terrorist- Fathers Rights. Warren Farrell, Mike J Murphy, Jeremy Swanson, Mark K Godbey, Donald Tenn, Stan Rains, Richard A. Gardner coined the term Parental Alienation Syndrome

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June 30, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

(LOUISBURG, Kan.) Timothy Lomax shot his wife, Danielle, and then turned the gun on himself

Shooting Victim Leaves Haunting Facebook Message

LOUISBURG, Kan. — An unsettling Facebook message could reveal new information about what led up to a gruesome scene that left an area mother and father dead.

Authorities said Timothy Lomax shot his wife, Danielle, and then turned the gun on himself on Wednesday morning in their Louisburg home.

Neighbors told KCTV5 that the couple that was found dead inside the house had a rocky relationship. Police said they believe it ended with a murder-suicide.

Louisburg police evacuated the neighborhood just after 7:30 a.m. when they got a call about shots being fired inside the house at 219 N. Fifth Terrace. Officers from the SWAT team entered the house and found the man and woman in their 20s dead.

"They told me to evacuate and leave the house through the back door and officers were waiting back there," said neighbor Josh Loffler.

"Once we finally made entry, we found one male and one female dead," said Police Chief Ron Anderson.

On Danielle’s Facebook page, someone posted a message on June 2 saying, "I missing being a little kid, because there was never any drama, fights and the only man in your life was your Daddy."

Just before the shooting, someone in the house sent a text message to a baby sitter that said, "Come get the kids right away. Don’t want them to see what happens next."

The baby sitter managed to get the two children out of the house before the gunfire erupted.

Neighbors said they are sad for the sorrow the children must face.

"I’m a nurse, and any loss of life is tragic, but now two children are left with no parents," said neighbor Jeri Grove. "To lose both at once is not right."

Police said just a few weeks ago, they went to the house because one of the parents was concerned the other was going to take the children and not return.

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) Stuart Showalter Neo Nazi-Fathers Rights Advocate-Abusers Rights Advocate Glenn Sacks-Abusers Advocate,Right Wing Terrorist- Fathers Rights. Warren Farrell, Mike J Murphy, Jeremy Swanson, Mark K Godbey, Donald Tenn, Stan Rains, Richard A. Gardner coined the term Parental Alienation Syndrome

June 25, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

IF I WERE A GHOST, I COULD SPEND MORE TIME WITH MY CHILDREN

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As I was reading the words of a young mother in Washington state who recently committed suicide, I was reminded of an essay a British mum wrote and I wanted to rerun it.  Kodi Hawthorne had her nine month old daughter taken from her in a horrific battle instigated by her ex-boyfriend Travis.  It was a hateful campaign to completely destroy her, and it did.  (Please moms, get help before considering suicide.  This hurts so many people including the children and it lets the bastard win.)

Back to the British mum…Marie is incredible at expressing the horrifying experience of children being ripped from their mothers by fathers out of spite.  Her blog is Kids Need Mums.

If I were a ghost, I could spend more time with my children – yet another nightmare dream

I woke up crying from a dream I had last night. The tears started during my dream: my dream-self was crying and as I woke up, I was still crying.

I had dreamt that I had become a ghost. My ghost-self was able to be anywhere that my children were – it felt wonderful. If they were asleep in their room, I could sit on the end of the bed and just watch them sleeping. If they were sitting quietly reading a book, I could sit next to them mouthing the words alongside them and watch the expressions changing on their faces when they read a funny piece or a puzzling piece or simply watch them becoming drawn into a fantasy world. A world where I was too. I could run outside and play with them, chasing after a ball or just cheering them on…

Nobody would notice, so nobody could stop me. No-one could tell me that I shouldn’t be near my children. I could spend all day and all night with them. If I was lucky, they might become aware of my presence in a positive way and just feel comforted that their mum was with them then they could sleep soundly, assured in the knowledge that my love was all around them even when I was not physically able to hold them and cuddle them.

No wonder I awoke crying…..it’s simply a dream and not a possibility…..

[Don’t worry – I’m not suicidal. Far from it, I would never do that to my kids and I feel no reason to do it since making a full recovery]

I dread going to sleep nowadays. Most nights I dream about missing my children, about them being taken away, about them being in trouble and not being able to help them, about having to witness their tears and not be able to wipe them away, about them growing up without me, forgetting that they had a mum. I can only sleep with a sleeping tablet and then I still wake up fretting with a dread in my stomach and memories of the dreams I’ve had floating in and out in the early hours.

I never tell the children I have these dreams. When they tell me of their own bad nightmares, they tell of dreams of me having my head chopped off or about being eaten by a giant spider or about being kidnapped and me not coming to rescue them. My youngest wakes up scared that I really have had my head chopped off and is constantly scared that her dream will come true. She’s fretting about whether I’m safe and whether I will die. No matter how much reassurance I give her, she’s not convinced that I’m alright. She’s often telling me that she loves me “to the moon, and all the way around the universe and every atom in the universe!…..” but then goes on to ask how much I love her, seeking constant reassurance that I do.

My son is being teased at school for the fact that his mum doesn’t live with him; they tease him in front of other boys saying “your mum doesn’t live with you” in a taunt, repeating it until my son has to walk away. What does he tell them? How does he explain? He can’t; he simply has to walk away, hurting. No other boy in the whole school has a mother who doesn’t live with her son. He has to nurse that hurt on his own. Unlike other children with divorced parents who can share their hurt, he can’t; his family story is different from everyone else’s. It’s acceptable to have a father living away, but there is no other mother who is……How does he explain that even to himself, let alone to anyone else….

No wonder we are all having nightmares; it is a nightmare, whether you are awake or asleep and there is no end in sight….this is not a dream, but a harsh reality that my children and I are living in and we won’t wake up to find that it’s just a dream…..it’s horribly real.

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June 25, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

No way to live Women’s experiences of negotiating the family law system in the context of domestic violence June 2010

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June 24, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

The National Fatherhood Initiative: Supporting a Misogynistic Agenda

Note: Cross posted from [NikitasJustice] American Mothers Political Party.

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In Re: The National Fatherhood Initiative: supporting a misogynistic agenda with "politically correct" jock straps. Also read this important article on the National Fatherhood agenda on theSilver Rights blogspot.

liz responds to Wade Horn’s
The Importance of Being Father.

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HORN: Despite conventional wisdom, which has held — and in many quarters still does — that children do not pay a price when fathers are absent from their lives, research data depict a much different reality.  Violent criminals are overwhelmingly males who grew up without fathers, including 60 percent of America’s rapists, 72 percent of adolescent murderers and 70 percent of long term prison inmates.  Children living in a father-absent home are also more likely to be suspended or expelled from school, or to drop out; require treatment for an emotional or behavioral problem; commit suicide as adolescents; and be victims of child abuse or neglect.

LIZ: Let’s stop right here.  Research on widowed homes, and research which has been done on divorced mother-headed homes which are financially comfortable and unstressed indicates that there is virtually no difference in child rearing outcomes between these children and children raised in intact homes with a mother and father present.

Moreover, the research does not indicate that these percentages of violent criminals, et al. grew up through their entire childhoods (as implied) sans a father in the household, but rather, that they grew up in homes in which that father was absent for some period of their childhood. So right in the first paragraph, you perpetuate two blatant misrepresentations. Your argument, Wade, also misleads in another way: the overwhelming MOST of single mother households do NOT exhibit these childrearing problems.

If children tend to pay any price at all when the father is absent, that price is largely in their standard of living. It’s financial. But growing up poor in and of itself also does not necessitate a bad child rearing outcome. The actual causes of negative child rearing problems correlating with the disparate and nonhomogeneous classification of "fatherless homes" (or "single mother households") are disguised and distorted by statistics which lump into that category, not only demographic groups which do NOT exhibit these bad child-rearing outcomes, but also all those homes which are "fatherless" precisely because of the very same factors which down the road affected the children. These factors include: adultery, wife and child abuse; addictions to alcohol, sex, and drugs, other personality dysfunctions; conflict, and plain old abandonment, financial irresponsibility and failure to support (emotionally or financially.) The other primary and telling difference between "fatherless homes" which do and do not have problems is the relative financial stability, educational level, and comfort of the mother.

It is true that a disproportionate number of violent criminals have been shown to have hailed from homes where the biological father was indeed absent at some point, but this ignores that he also was present at some point, and during those periods preceding his abandonment of the family, or the family’s flight from him, often left the legacy of his criminality, addiction, abuse, and/or character flaws, as well as his genes.  There is a generational dysfunction that is usually ignored by these studies.  The absent dad of that violent criminal might have been merely alcoholic, rather than a criminal himself, but he was unlikely to have been an absent Ward Cleaver.

HORN: Why are fathers so important for the well-being of children? The answer is embedded in the larger question of why families are important. The family’s importance is nothing short of ensuring the continuity of civilization. The family does this in two ways: first, by propagating the species, and second, by socializing children.

LIZ: Having failed to establish the first premise as true, Wade, you throw out a nonsequitor, a gratuitous plea for reinstatement of the patriarchal "family," which ostensibly is important because fathers are important, because, apparently, if a father is not there, it’s not a "family." It’s a circular argument: fathers are important because when fathers are there, there is a family (you don’t think so, otherwise), and the family is important because (this is a stretch) it is necessary to "propagate the species" and "socialize children."

Well, first off, it’s pretty obvious that families (in the Wade Horn sense) are not necessary at all to "propagate the species." Rather, a "family" is what nature creates when a mother bears young, father-presence or not. That leaves us with your argument that the father-headed family is necessary to "socialize children." Obviously, it’s not, since MOST single mother-headed households have perfectly well socialized children.Claiming that "most criminals come from fatherless homes" is a far cry from claiming that most "fatherless homes" produce criminals. Clearly, they do not.

It’s also well-established that there is plenty of generational dysfunction in male-female two-parent families, but it’s of the sort that’s more easily disguised under the umbrella of circumstances that mirror "normality" in the society in which this sort of family is considered ideal: e.g. alcoholism, abuse, sex perversion, overeating, secret-keeping.

Your argument goes on to explain why "fatherless" children, presumably being improperly "socialized," are at risk of some sort (you hope) even though research into causation (versus bean-counting) indicates that father-presence or absence in and of itself is not a factor in childrearing outcomes. Father involvement hasn’t been shown to have effect to correct the statistics in joint custody situations post-divorce, no matter how high that involvement (in fact, the reverse has been correlated.)

HORN: Proper socialization requires the development of self-control in order to follow the rules of society. Well-socialized children have learned not to strike out at others to get what they want; under-socialized children often have not. Well-socialized children have learned to listen to and obey the directions of legitimate authority figures, such as parents and teachers; under-socialized children often have not. Well-socialized children have learned to cooperate and share with others; under-socialized children many times have not. In short, well-socialized children have developed the ability to self-regulate impulse gratification; under-socialized children often have not.

LIZ: You claim that what’s wrong with juvenile delinquents is a lack of proper "socialization, i.e. "self-control." This is a quite pat answer to why we have juvenile criminals. Of course, we could beg the question, and say: well if children turn into juvenile delinquents then they have not been properly socialized by definition, and therefore lack of proper socialization has caused them to become juvenile delinquents, i.e., they are what they are because of what they are. But this doesn’t actually work to make a point. Gang members in certain cultures are quite well socialized into their culture; it happens to be one antagonistic to the culture in control, however.

What is the telling factor causing juvenile crime? There are many, not just one. And primary among them, when we look at differences among the various demographic groups comprised in the umbrella of "fatherless" homes, and compare them to "intact" homes, is, not the father, but themother, and not all mothers are alike, or are situated alike.

The singlemost important contribution that a loving father may make to an intact household is to the emotional and financial comfort and happiness of the mother — and THIS, the mother’s personality and situation, has been shown to be the singlemost common common denominator across the board affecting child rearing outcomes. No study has indicated any benefit to the mere presence of the father, where that contribution is factored out. Widowed homes, which typically are without continued post-divorce stress or custody/visitation issues, which are financially more comfortable than never-married or divorced households, which benefit from increased extended family and community support, and in which the mothers have buck-stops-here parental authority, simply do not share these touted "fatherless home" negatives.

HORN: A civil society is totally dependent upon most of its adult citizenry having developed self-control. Absent a significant majority of such well-socialized adults, storekeepers would have to post armed guards in front of every display counter; every woman would live in constant fear of being raped by roaming bands of marauding men; and, children would be largely left to fend for themselves or be exploited for the gratification of their parents.

LIZ: Apparently, in your world, women don’t naturally feel protective or loving of their infants — they only care for their children out of some disciplined sense of "self-control." Or are you implying a natural male lack of parental feelings? To extend your argument, it further would appear that in your world, men must exert learned self-control over themselves in order to suppress a natural drive to gang-rape.

[I thought he was a psychologist. Or is this merely the propagandist’s argument ad consequentiam ploy — disagree with the "father-family values" agenda, and children will starve and women will be gang-raped…?]

Self-control. The something supposedly lacking in the teaching of children in single mother households, according to Horn. Would this be the sort of self-control exhibited by the sires of all those unwed teenage households, most of them adults and most of them involved with or married to other women? Or would this be the sort of self-control exhibited by fathers in many of the divorced households who were wife beaters, alcoholics, cheaters, drug addicts, or spent a few years in jail, and that’s why the household is now "fatherless?"

Wade, you imply that there is something about having a man — any man, so long as he is bio-dad — being in the family which creates civilisation and self-control. The corollary is that women simply don’t have this sort of self-control, civilization, or ability to impart it. This is as ridiculous a notion as it sounds. (And you don’t agree with it yourself, below.)

MOST single mother households don’t have bad childrearing outcomes. MOST are successful. So, it’s not father presence or absence, but the presence or absence of some other factor or factors in SOME of those "fatherless homes" which is key — not the presence or absence of the father. What are those factors? There are loads to choose from, none of which require the strained sort of argument you have to make in order to "explain" the ostensible importance of the "father factor." Here’s the preface to that strained argument:

HORN: Parents socialize children through two mechanisms. Most obviously, children learn through direct tuition reinforced by a combination of rewards and punishments for acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Children are first told how they should behave and then reinforced for following the rules and punished for disobedience to the rules. But children also learn by observing others. Of the two processes, observing others is by far the more important. In fact, most complex human behavior is acquired not through direct instruction, but through observational learning. Children are much more likely to do as a parent does than what the parent says. This is why parents who lie and cheat invariably have children who lie and cheat, despite any direct instruction to the contrary.

LIZ: How true. All of this buildup is simply a reiteration of generally accepted child development theory (although I would argue with the superior placement of "punishment" in the paragraph.) Children learn mostly by modeling themselves after example.

Stating truisms is the best way to pave the way for a con: the best cons mix truth in with false conclusions. Remember that right at the beginning statement of this article was a whopper of a subtle lie: that most violent criminals et al. hail from "fatherless homes," the implication being that there was an absence of a necessary paternal role model. No, they don’t hail from "fatherless homes," not if we properly count the numbers to reflect "fatherless" — as it implies — as not having that father around during those early and impressionable years. There was indeed a role model of a biological father for part of the time in most of these homes breeding our future criminals, and it was a bad one. And, moreover, most "fatherless" homes do not rear criminals of any sort, violent or otherwise. Do some children require a paternal role model and others not?

The FR movement conveniently describes as "hailing from a fatherless" home, any individual who spent any portion of childhood outside of the traditional patriarchal intact family. In doing so, the FR movement also conveniently gets to leave the impression that "dad’s" genes or role modeling or abuse could not possibly have been responsible for any bad trait, genetic or modeled, that has affected the children in these homes. Rather, it was his "absence."

That’s ridiculous. The ploy ignores the glaringly obvious: that there likely were some pretty dysfunctional things going on all around, and they likely involved that biological father, which is why the homes are "fatherless" in the first place. And it conveniently ignores all the other factors, from the stress of divorce itself, to the difficulty our social and employment constructs unnecessarily present for women with children, and so forth, which also contribute negatively, but in and of themselves, are irrelevant to father presence or absence. And most of all, it ignoresthe most important factor, and the ONLY one which holds steady through all kinds of studies and groups as affecting childrearing outcomes: the personality, education, situation and overall happiness and comfort of the children’s primary caregiver, usually their mother.

HORN: The socialization of children simply does not get done as well when fathers are absent from the home. When fathers are absent, boys often develop conduct problems — they act out aggressively and sometimes quite violently toward others. Girls also act out when fathers are absent, but in a different way — they often become sexually promiscuous. In short, the presence of involved fathers is absolutely critical if we are to successfully socialize children.

LIZ: Isn’t this a misogynistic load of crap! Widowed homes don’t have these childrearing problems. Neither do most other single mother homes. All that build-up and your argument comes right back to the oft-repeated false correlation between negative childrearing outcomes and "fatherless" homes. The correlation is not true except as to a subset group within "fatherless" homes, and in none of them is father presence or absence per se the causative factor of anything. The blathering about "socialization" and "self-control," as nowhere as it goes, is really just the obfuscating precursor to a theory which, in essence, is "a difference in search of a purpose," below:

WADE: There appear to be at least three reasons for this. First, mothers and fathers tend to parent different. Beginning at the birth of a child, mothers tend to be more verbal with their children, whereas fathers are more physical. Mothers also tend to encourage caution, whereas fathers are more challenging of achievement and independence. But most importantly, mothers tend to be more powerful nurturant figures and fathers stronger disciplinarians. Why should this difference in parenting style make such a difference for children?

LIZ: Gender stereotyping? I suppose we are to ignore all the homes in which Daddy is the indulgent parent and Mom is the disciplinarian — the majority of them! Apparently we also are to ignore that talk about fathers’ early contributions just doesn’t fly as an argument regarding outcomes in divorced homes, because all those divorced "fatherless homes" you are talking about become "fatherless" on average, well after the infancy of the children. As for the ones that start out that way — well take a look at the biological fathers. These men certainly are no disciplinarians, not even of themselves. Abusers, maybe. And apparently, we also are to supposed to suspend belief in your earlier hypothesis, above, that lacking appropriate "self-control," the promiscuous unwed teenage mother, being improperly socialized herself, will be "leaving her children to fend for themselves," not exhibiting warm, overly concerned caution.

What fathers are like, and the function they may serve in homes where the fathers are loving, mature, appreciated, and involved — well that’s what these fathers may indeed be and do in these particular homes. But these are the particular fathers they are, and they are in the successful intact homes they are in, precisely because they DO have attributes which fathers from fatherless homes are far more likely to Just Not Have.

Other than having male reproductive facility in common, there is just no reason to assume that the biological sires of children who hail from fatherless homes share character or parenting attributes in common with the men who also have the sort of personalities and functionality which have enabled them to succeed at maintaining a loving intact marriage.

It’s more likely that the fathers from "fatherless" homes just don’t have the same talent for maintaining a relationship, or a loving marriage. Quite likely they are not as desirable to have around for a number of reasons, if only for the reason that they do not have a satisfactory level of love and respect for the mother in question, and this in turn affects all sorts of other things.And look at how you completely denigrate and ignore differences in women: heck, they’re all the same, whether a 15-year-old teenage girl with an 8th grade education or a divorced 40-year-old college professor.

HORN: We used to believe that families socialize children best when parents demonstrate high levels of love and relatively low levels of control. Research has shown, however, that when children are reared with high levels of warmth and low levels of control there are very predictable results — they act-out, both aggressively and sexually. In contrast to these 1960’s ideas of how to parent children, research has consistently shown that families socialize children best when they use a combination of nurturance and control.

LIZ: On the contrary: we have known for years that the best parent is one who is both loving and authoritative (that’s authoritative, not authoritarian.) Even the fleeting trend of "permissive parenting" never actually was about parents relinquishing "control" or letting their households run amuck. Convenient as it has been for a few decades now to blame that straw man for parenting "failures" (it was supposedly the reason for the hippy generation), it never actually caught on with any widespread popularity, particularly among homes with less education and lower socioeconomic status. These homes, which were least likely to have adopted the 1960s "permissive parenting" pseudo-trend (largely a hallmark of the intellectual and financial elite), still yielded the least successful childrearing outcomes.

One of the reasons for negative child-rearing outcomes in divorced homes in which there is something other than sole authority in the custodial parent, e.g. the variety of joint custody "solutions," is precisely that at every turn, the authority of the head of the children’s household IS in fact undermined. That is one reason widowed homes, and homes in which one parent is completely absent actually do so much BETTER than every situation of shared, joint, split, switched, and otherwise flipflopped and mixed-up custody.

Additionally, and debunking theories steeped in the presumption of male "discipline" in intact homes, Shere Hite has written extensively on how women as parents are authoritatively undermined in the patriarchal system such that where two parents are present, the constant subtle messages of second class woman status along with father-figure exaltation ultimately (by adolescence) diminish the mother’s authority in the eyes of children of both sexes. This is an artificially-created "problem" with mother-parenting. Introduce a higher boss, and then blame her for not "being authoritative" or able to command adequate respect.

By contrast, the children of women who are on their own as parents, and LEFT alone — those who have no divorce stress or custody hassles undermining authority, and no financial problems or social pariah status or social worker meddling (compare widowed mothers versus welfare mothers versus struggling working single mother with young children) — do just fine. These mothers are in fact authoritative as well as loving. In fact, in these households, the child rearingoutcomes are comparable to those from intact homes. [Also see liznotes on the problems with joint custody.]

Even with the patriarchal systemic status boost, it remains purely a myth that fathers are the disciplinarians in most households. Studies of parents’ interactions and roles in intact households instead indicate that most time spent by fathers with their children is in the areas of play, and in most households, the modeling of self-control, the primary nurturing AND the discipline all are tasks befalling the primary caregiver — most of the time, the mother.

So why do violent inner city boys hailing from those "fatherless" homes appear to exhibit lack of socialization?  It’s not because they don’t have the half hour evening at home of father around or the paternal "discipline" (as the term is misused to mean an occasional whop with a belt.)  It’s because they are in fact "socialized" quite well, actually, into a culture that doesn’t fit in with our civilized notions, and into an outside surrounding world of poverty, drugs (blame the war on drugs for a lot of this), gangs and violence.

Is this new, stemming from the last three decades of feminism?  Heck no. Take a look at what we were "socializing" in the inner cities quite similarly earlier in this century during Prohibition.

As for girls’ "acting out" sexually (not boys — or is that not a problem?): how is this really different from the obsessing over coupling we as a culture continually have encouraged in young girls vis a vis their appearance, their popularity, and their "success" with the opposite sex? This is nothing new. Girls have forever in our culture sought attention from boys — the patriarchal culture demands it, and measures girls’ worth by their sexual attractiveness, which in turn is measured by numbers of "conquests." Girls are not engaging in sex for love and attention — they are engaging in sex because it’s become pervasively "out there" in the culture. There are many reasons for that, including a loosening of sexual attitudes generally, and the pervasive sexual messages in the media on television, etc. But it’s the same psychological dynamics and behaviors simply carried to a somewhat higher degree. The pregnancies?

Young teenage girls who both eschew marriage and continue their pregnancies are not looking for male love, but babies, and possibly a rite of passage into an adult world that otherwise holds little in the way of potential milestones and achievements for them. They are choosing to not terminate their pregnancies. And according to the Guttmacher Institute, MOST (71%) of unwed "teenage" pregnancies involve males who are not teenagers at all, but men over the age of majority, so perhaps we ought to look harder at male adult, not girl child behaviors here.

Most odd, is that most of the same pro-patriarchy politicos and propagandists who point to teenage pregnancies as a peculiar problem stemming from "fatherlessness" — a difficult and complex concept to define, let alone solve as a "problem" — if indeed it is one at all — are against the simple solution: against sex education, contraceptives, and abortion. The problem for these men isn’t the emotional well-being of teenage girls at all. It’s the age-old abhorrence of the sexual freedom of women. It’s the perception of their OWN lack of control, which is threatening to them.

There are fewer teenage girls having babies today (1998) than there were forty years ago (1958.) The difference is that in 1958 they were married. Were teenage girls in the 1950s getting married so young because they were obsessively looking for father-love they didn’t get in their intact homes?

HORN: Given that mothers tend toward nurturance and fathers toward control, children reared in single mother households are likely to experience high levels of warmth, but low control. Conversely, children reared in single father households are likely to be exposed to lower levels of warmth and higher control. Either way, socialization does not go as well compared to when children experience both high warmth and moderately high control.

LIZ: You not only spout a false stereotype here, but then speculate from it. Women soft and sweet and warm, fathers sensible and objective and in control. The speculation is neither true nor rational. Your attempt to assign to women all that is weak and hesitant, and to men all that is strong and brave, breeds an inconsistency and oversimplification in your thesis. As you know yourself, where control is tight, children are LESS likely to develop an internal sense of self-control. And high control is the essence of overtly discouraging risk-taking and exerting undue amounts of caution. Depending upon balance and degree, a controlling parent can cultivate either effect in children: fear and underachieving, or reckless irresponsibility. So which is it. Neither. It’s not this simple at all. This is all gender-biased poppycock.

Men and women are equally likely to have either kind of personality, controlling or nurturing, or a combination of both or a lack of both, and the childrearing outcome also depends upon the innate temperament of the child. Aside from all this, and back to the stereotyping: where would we ever be able to observe and compare mothers’ and fathers’ parenting styles side by side under similar circumstances except in the context of an intact home. (See Shere Hite, above.) There indeed may be some observable reversion to expected role-playing in most intact homes, where male and female parents tend to fall into artificially heightened socially expected gender roles. But, then again, how do we explain the persistence of the father = disciplinarian myth?

And, this still says nothing at all about single parent homes. In fact, a study released last summer (1997) indicated that children reared in sole single mother households compare favorably to children reared in intact homes, and, interestingly, FAR better than children reared in single father homes and other familial arrangements.

HORN: The point here is not to denigrate the parenting style of either mothers or fathers. But contrary to the claims of some, gender differences in parental behavior do not need to be minimized for parents to raise well-adjusted and well-socialized children. Indeed, what children need to grow up to become well-adjusted adults is the combination of parenting styles that mothers and fathers provide.

LIZ: Nonsense. These parenting "gender differences" are myth in the first place. And the point is precisely to denigrate the parenting styles of "women," and render them — the natural parent of children — artificially incapable of rearing their own young sans male leadership.

The motivation for this blather really isn’t that fathers are needed; it’s that patriarchists perceive fathers as needing a special status to be accorded within a patriarchal family system, including the right to control women’s reproductive capabilities and lives. (See, e.g. Daniel Amneus’s The War Against Patriarchy. ) It’s not about children, but about some men’s fears that their pro-male, comfortably organized world is crumbling. (Ibid.) Any excuse which sounds more altruistic and benign, however, such as the well-being of children, or "society" (!) and less like what it really is, an attempt to fulfill the needs and wants of the adult men in question, will do as ostensible rationale.

HORN: The second reason why fathers are so critical in the socialization of children is that children — and boys in particular — learn to keep their aggressive impulses in check through the observation of a male figure in the home who consistently and regularly controls himself. It is through a boy’s observation of the way his father deals with frustration, anger and sadness that boys learn how men cope with such emotions. It is also through a boy’s observation of the way his father treats the boy’s mother that he learns how to treat women. If the father treats the mother with respect and dignity, than it is likely that his son will grow up to treat women with dignity and respect. If the father treats the mother with disdain and cruelty, then — unfortunately — his son is likely to grow up to do the same.

LIZ: Well, dang if this doesn’t shoot your entire thesis! So if the father treats the mother with disdain and cruelty… a "fatherless" home would be better, would it not? And women cannot be aggressive, do not ever have anger to be controlled, and cannot role model human (not gender-specific) emotions and reactions?

Bunk. It’s the primary parent whose behavior is that primarily observed by the children, balancing all the little tedious chores of the day, organizing, planning, doing, and so forth. Your comments about the significance of role modeling in and of themselves are unassailable. But self-control is hardly a genderized trait that requires role modeling by a specific gender. And peppering a false argument with true statements about child development does not render misogyny more credible and less despicable.

No, this is woman-defamation surfacing: those hussy single mothers, wild and wanton, who have no self-control; the never-married whore who has child out-of-wedlock; the hot-to-trot divorcee; the sweet, soft-spoken, helpless-little-woman mother, etc. The fathers rights arguments don’t have to make sense. They only need repeat the buzz-words and phrases often enough to leave the intended impression. It’s part and parcel of the pervasive backlash theme that women are out of control, and we need to clamp down on them and clip their wings via traditional patriarchy, marry them off where they can be properly "husbanded."

[And note the classic progression of Horn’s claims here: from "children pay a price" to "fathers are important" to "fathers are critical" to "fathers are absolutely critical." Propaganda.]

Wade, according to your comments in your June 1998 Father’s Day newspaper essay, you would agree with me that paternal role modeling simply cannot be duplicated via joint custody and visitation schemes post-divorce, or other schemes of sometime father presence. It’s all about intact homes. And GOOD fathers; not just any fathers.

Even so, it bears pointing out the inherent contradictions in the male role modeling argument: nothing about it explains the insistence that fatherNESS requires biological paternity; only (we might surmise) a permanent and consistent from-the-beginning father-figure presence. (Where this is an adoptive father or step-father, however, the lesson will be undermined by the irregular, conflicting and confusing occasional presence of the biological father.)

Regardless of the difficulties, touting continuing marriage to the bio-dad come-hell-or-high-water just makes absolutely no sense where that biological father is NOT an admirable role model, does not comport himself appropriately, does not love and respect the children’s mother, or has other dysfunctions. And encouraging hissometime presence in an unwed or divorce situation simply does not achieve this particular role modeling.

Ignored through all of the father-necessary arguments is any recognition that failure of the father in question to be the sort of father you describe as "critical" to a child’s well-being is a primary reason for the existence of the "fatherless homes" in the first place.

HORN: Finally, for girls, fathers are critical for learning mastery of their sexuality. Indeed, one of the predictable results of father absence for girls is early and promiscuous sexual activity. In contrast, if a girl experiences the love of a father who places her well-being above his own and who acts as a natural protector, than the girl is likely to delay sexual relations until she finds such a man herself. If she is denied such fatherly love, then the girl is likely to try to seek it elsewhere — often inappropriately and often at very young ages.

LIZ: What unbelievable woman-denigrating arrogance! Boys must have men to learn to be men, but young women also must have men to learn how to be women, rather than older women? This obnoxious claim — that absent father guidance, girls will be prematurely sexual — falls apart completely when one looks at the ages of marriage in "intact family times." Delayed sexual relations in the patriarchal society?  Nope. Take a look at the relative ages of marriages of women in the most patriarchal familial systems, and the average ages of marriages in the past in the United States.

And, of course, this men-train-girl’s sexuality thesis glosses over the issue of fathers who are no longer in "fatherless homes" precisely because they are just not the sort of men who will provide healthy other-centered parenting, and likely have quite harmful and damaging outlooks and attitudes about women and women’s sexuality. There’s a big "if" in there: "if a girl experiences…" We are, it appears to ignore the significant portion of not-there fathers, perhaps the majority of absent fathers, who are not because they are the cheaters, the pornography users, the abusers, the denigrators and degraders, and the ones who lacked respect and love for the child’s mother. No girl’s budding sexuality needs to be influenced by this. [liznote]

HORN: Given this understanding of what happens in individual families when fathers are absent due to divorce or abandonment, what should we expect as a society when father absence becomes, not the exception, but the norm? Answer: increasing violence and increasing sexual acting-out. That is precisely what we are seeing.

Children are the fastest growing segment of the criminal population in the United States. Between 1982 and 1991, the rate juveniles were arrested for murder increased 93 percent, for aggravated assault 72 percent, for forcible rape 24 percent and for car theft 97 percent. And although homicide rates have increased for all ages, those for teenagers have increased more rapidly than those of adults.

LIZ: Take a look at the "war on drugs" and its effects here, as well as shifts in the economy, the rise in the population, the rise of media violence and pornography since the inception of television and later, television itself, video games, the relative decrease in per capita student spending on academics in the schools, and the increase in gun ownership and availability. In fact, in the last thirty years in the United States we also haven’t had a war to speak of, something which tends to focus young men on getting more serious about their responsibilities, their studies and their futures. Correlation is not causation. (By the way, what about all the children raised by their mothers alone during all those periods in history in which men were off to war, at sea, trapping in the frontier wilds, emigrated to another country…?) [liznote]

HORN: We also know that each and every day: 7,700 teenagers become sexually active; 1,100 teenagers have abortions; 600 teenagers get syphilis or gonorrhea; 2,500 children are born out of wedlock; and 6 teenagers commit suicide.

LIZ: And how many children get tuberculosis or rickets, drop out of school at age 12 or 13 (as in past decades), or attend at least some college, compared with previous decades? There were more teenage pregnancies in past decades — along with younger marriages — and far fewer girls who attended college! Floating numbers and "problems" completely out of context is ridiculous.The problem is the father’s rightster perception of "fatherless homes." On balance, does society have more problems than in the past? It all depends upon what one chooses to focus, what one personally thinks is important when comparing uncomparable "ills," and the weight one chooses to accord value-wise to the factors and circumstances arbitrarily focused on.

Which is worse: more teenage girls having unwed sex, or more teenage girls getting married, having babies and not getting educated? 600 cases of syphillis or gonorrhea, curable with penicillin, or 6000 cases of polio, incurable? Some young men (often homosexual boys, by the way, shamed and devasted by patriarchal "family values" attitudes) committing suicide, or young men proudly enlisting in (or sent off by old men to) a war which kills or maims them?

HORN: Father absence may not be the sole cause of each of these social ills — but it certainly makes each one worse. Americans need to remember the important work that fathers do in helping to rear children successfully. We must resolve to restore the institution of good and responsible fatherhood in America. The well-being of our children — and ultimately our nation — depends upon us rediscovering the importance of being father.

Wade F. Horn, Ph.D., is director of The National Fatherhood Initiative.

I don’t think so, Wade. "Father-absence" may not only not be the sole cause of "social ills"; it’s likely not the cause of any social ills at all. If it’s anything; if it’s even about "social ills" at all, it is as a symptom, versus an arbitrary definition of what is "social wellness," i.e. "normal."

"The institution of good and responsible fatherhood in America" is what yielded centuries of woman-slavery, denied women the right to autonomy over their very bodies and lives, and prevented or restricted women from being educated, from participating in the economy, from being able to support themselves, from owning property, and from having the right to vote.

The "fatherhood movement" around the world now — and it is a trend, usually couched in religious fundamentalist rubric –can be seen carried to its logical ends in the Taliban in Afghanistan, in the Middle East, and in other horrid, tyrranical and repressive regimes that are rising to power.

How far back, and to which decade shall we return to in the United States in forcing women as individuals once again to kowtow to the dictates of "society" — men — regarding when they may have sex, how they may use their own bodies, and how they may live their lives, all for a theory of social welfare?

It’s easy to say (as these "fathers" like to say) that all the ills of the brief last three decades are attributable to "fatherlessness" and feminism. Men such as yourself, Horn, with pleasant-sounding, but specious pap, fuel the fires of fundamentalist tyrants. This is an old refrain, from Old Testament Biblical days onward. Change hardly is going to happen instantaneously such that all the pieces fit perfectly at once, and change always has some measure of discomfort. It’s not a very smart idea to judge a pudding before it’s finished, is it.

And lawyers and legislators take note: these theories do not support post-divorce sometime "fathering." The statistics freely comprise and decry those households as "fatherless." This is all about (see HORN, second paragraph, above) the importance of FAMILIES (as defined to include the father.)

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What’s this stuff really all about? Behind this movement is not just divorce reform or "getting fathers involved," as the ostensibly harmless, even beneficent, but farcical rhetoric of the National Fatherhood Initiative puts it.. It’s a first step in an agenda to get those women back under "control." A patriarchal backlash.

Consider this: even if everything Horn and his ilk claim about intact homes were true, it still wouldn’t present a viable argument. This is a "problem" without an acceptable solution. We also could violate individual rights and autonomy in all kinds of nasty and intrusive ways in order to create a society which appears more seemly, neat, utopian, homogeneous, orderly.

We could make the argument that turning another segment of the population, e.g. "blacks," back into slaves would enhance production and the economy (as that argument was made in the old south) and the standard of living for everyone else. We could make an argument for castration of any male caught having sex out of wedlock — now THAT would solve some of the fatherless family problem, wouldn’t it. Similarly, we could pass laws preventing women from exiting marriages, punishing adultery, requiring father custody or control of households. (And if these didn’t accomplish a thing for the welfare of children, well at least they would please some self-and-other-controlling men, wouldn’t they.) We could pass all manner of oppressive and draconian laws which would prevent and eliminate all kinds of perceived social "ills" and unseemliness. How about sterilizing lesbians? Some of this fathers-rights-anti-woman agenda is succeeding because of the willingness of most to simply presume as a belief that into which they have been inculcated in this father-loving society since childhood: the necessity of having a "father." All we need is a claimed compelling reason, specious or otherwise, to trample again on women’s lives, such as a purported "need" of children for two parents, one of each sex.

Most of us have fathers; most of us adore our daddies. But that’s not proof of a thing. When it’s about willingness to sacrifice one individual’s welfare for the sake of another’s, the crucial threshhold questions mustbe examined and answered first. In general, with regard to father’s rights rhetoric, that has not been done. It makes for great political soundbites.

By contrast, the position that children may NOT "need" two parents, and that this really may be all about what MEN need, elicits high emotion and shocked horror. It is just too upsetting a thought for many to contemplate — oh my, who would posit such a terrible idea, I love MY daddy, etc. That children "need" two parents, one of each sex, has been presumed, and it’s the reason why over the past few years, many of the fathers rights groups have added "children" into the names of their organizations. Being fooled by that is not good scholarship and it’s not intelligent.

But to the point: if "fatherlessness" is a problem, then how is it supposed to be cured?With the feel-good prattle of the National Fatherhood Initiative et al. giving lipservice to ineffectual programs, child support collections and such things as the innocuous-sounding "working with men to get them ‘re-involved’ in ‘broken homes?’ "

Please. Traditionally, patriarchy has cured "fatherlessness" with restrictions (not placed on men) regarding on how women may live their adult lives, and use their very own bodies. This is, when all is said and done, what is implied to follow the yammering about the "problem" of "fatherlessness." Next come the solutions.

First are the "step ones," such as restrictions on divorce, requirements that women name fathers on birth certificates or name their children after the men, the imposition of the accutrements of marriage and "normal family structure" onto the families created by women out of wedlock. After that come the "step twos," a la Father’s Manifesto, that women and women’s sexuality further be controlled, restricted, and reined in again in all kinds of other ways, legal and social: from restricting entry into jobs, to ending their suffrage, eliminating their right to own and manage property, and otherwise going back the panoply of historical measures that traditionally have been used to "encourage" women to get into marriages and remain married. Pandering to Judaic and Christian religious notions — completely inappropriate as a basis for law in the United States — also plays a major role here, as these religions essentially are about the exaltation of "fatherhood" and patriarchy, and originally came about for the purpose of institutionalizing this social ordering scheme.

Fathers are not in the home? Those who are concerned about this, and think it important, should work on making living with men more attractive to women. Obviously, some marriages succeed, and I doubt that many of those in this age of readily available divorce are enduring merely out of altruistic misery and abstract social commitment on the part of the persons in them.

A little cessation of the silly and counterproductive talk about how fathers "parent differently," are "important," are the "authoritative" ones, are the "spiritual leaders," and are "critical" to rearing children, and a little more talk about how men ought to get off that high horse, role up their sleeves, cut the superiority drivel, and pitch in with the housework, might go a lot further toward restoring marriage as a viable and enduring institution. Sorry, guys: your way didn’t work for the majority of the population, and the clock is just not going back.

liz

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June 21, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

WHY DOES PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA IGNORE MOTHERS?

Rights For Mothers

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Okay, given he gave a big bash for fathers last year (with the rollout for the Fatherhood Initiative Bill) and nothing for mothers, I was hoping he’d show a little more respect for us this year.  But no.  Another rollout of Father Worshipis on it’s way.  Apparently he could have cared less that there wereHUNDREDS of mothers who had lost their children to abusers in front of the White House on Mother’s Day, damaged with help from the very Fatherhood Initiative programs that help fathers get custody away from mothers with our tax dollars.  I posted a comment on the Washington Post to this story below…they haven’t printed it yet.  We are just going to have to yell a little bit louder, and start voting these jerks out of office.

From the Washington Post (I’m only posting the first couple paragraphs, I got nauseated looking at it):

Obama steps up fatherhood advocacy with new mentoring initiative

By Krissah Thompson

Washington Post Staff Writer

Monday, June 21, 2010

The First Family

President Obama and his family have been active in appearing before the media at community events, rallies and with their dog.

In what is becoming a Father’s Day ritual for the Obama administration, the president on Monday will bring together children, famous dads and nonprofit groups that promote fatherhood to highlight the importance of fathers.

The center of President Obama’s day-long celebration will be a speech at the ARC, an arts and recreation campus in Southeast Washington, where he is set to announce the creation of the President’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative. It will build on a theme that has been central to his family policy and a core part of the White House’s Office of Faith-based and Neighborhood Partnerships….

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Obama steps up fatherhood exaltation Funding GENOCIDE against Battered Mothers and Children

 

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Obama steps up fatherhood advocacy with new mentoring initiative

In what is becoming a Father’s Day ritual for the Obama administration, the president on Monday will bring together children, famous dads and nonprofit groups that promote fatherhood to highlight the importance of fathers. By Krissah Thompson

AngelFury wrote:

Too many mothers are being punished tortured and killed by the ‘fix’ bad dad federally funded misogynistic propaganda of Fathers Rights groups. The fatherhood Initiative—where is the Motherhood Initiative? What about moms? Moms who are living in the streets because of these federally funded Fatherhood programs??? Moms who lost their children to dead beat abuser dads because the Gov. forced these dads (better off dead) into the lives of their children and their mother making life a living hell for them and eventually through theses fatherhood Initiatives actually taking full custody of the kids so they don’t have to pay child support= and more so make the mother pay overwhelming fees in support while not allowing mom to see her children at all.

What is wrong with this country? There is genocide in full force against mothers and children and it is being funded by the government.

The Government needs to keep policy out of family—because what each and every single dollar of out taxes that go into this program do is ‘get rid of mom” and give abusers and users more control-

Why beat your wife when you can much better kill her with our government. Thx Obama for change—change into the darkest of ages…. and a black future meaning no future for our children.

A soldiers last cry on the battlefield as he dies- is for his mother.-

• DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND CHILD CUSTODY http://www.domesticviolenceabuseandchildcustody.com/#
• Domestic Violence (DV) by Proxy: http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/pas/DVP.html
• Are Protective Parents Losing Custody to Alleged Abusers?Evidence shows that women who raise concerns about family violence during custody litigation run the risk of losing their children. http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/dv.html
• Reproductive Rights, Parental Rights, and Family Violence: A Dangerous Intersection http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2010/03/17/when-reproductive-rights
• HOW DO WE KNOW CUSTODY COURTS ARE SENDING CHILDREN TO LIVE WITH ABUSERS http://parentingnewsnetwork.com/?p=1167
• How Family Courts Punish Abused Women http://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/author/diannebartlow/
•  CONFIRMED: PROTECTIVE MOTHERS WERE RIGHT http://parentingnewsnetwork.com/?p=1152
• Washington, D.C. — March on Washington by Mothers of Lost Children http://www.salem-news.com/articles/may082010/lost-moms-ct.php

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Lethal Trinity of Hoodlums: Fatherhood, Motherhood, White-hooded White Men in the American MidWest (Indiana)

 

Lets Get Honest

Custodial Dads & Stepmoms, Divorcing Dads, and Absent Moms…  Not good for kids.

I’ve been thinking about this one for a while.  I’m going to pick on Indiana, as it has a prominent Fatherhood promoter in legislator Evan Bayh, and recent trouble with another Dad that won custody, 5 year old girl died, and he and STEPMOM tried to blame it (unsuccessfully) on the REAL (biological) mother, who is now down a child, just months after losing custody of (her).

In this one, the mandated reporters who had a chance to, DIDN’T, and the first who did report, just went along with blaming the real Mom.

New details emerge in death of 5-year-old girl at hands of custodial dad, step mom

(Muncie, Indiana)

The general public still thinks that mothers don’t lose custody unless they’re nuts or sluts. But this article tells you the truth: the protective mother lost custody because she COULD NOT AFFORD AN ATTORNEY. She was outgunned by a lawyered-up Daddy who could buy what he wanted. Which was basically a 5-year-old girl he could rape, torture, and systematically starve. Everybody happy now? In addition to CPS getting dragged through the wringer (again), are we going to see the names of the custody evaluators, judges, and other court officials who rubberstamped this custody arrangement? Don’t hold your breath. Even if a few CPS or medical workers get reprimanded or lose their jobs, the court people will stay golden. One of the few exceptions is Judge Robert Lemkau who got voted out of office after he gave a crazy violent father visitation of an infant, an infant who was murdered less than two weeks later. The public has got to start holding the courts responsible for these gross miscarriages of justice.

http://www.fox59.com/news/wxin-muncie-death-investigation-update-061610,0,871744.story

New details emerge in death of Muncie 5-year-old
During a six-month period last fall and winter, more than a half dozen health care workers treated or observed serious problems with five year-old Lauren McConniel. It wasn’t until about a week before she died on March 9th from severe malnutrition, that her injuries were reported to . . .

Another century, and …..

Here’s MOTHERHOOD WORSHIP with the HOODED WHITE GUYS, same state (and supported by religious women, also….)

Lies Across America: What Our Historic Sites Get Wrong – Google Books Result

James W. Loewen – 2007 – History – 464 pages
The Indiana Klan stressed law enforcement, motherhood, virtue, patriotism, … In that year’s Democratic National Convention, the Ku Klux

(This is accessible to view by Googlebooks and shows that a large resurgence of this clan, pre-civil rights of the 1960s, happened in INDIANA.  It’s worth a read.  They had got the press, the governor, and were aiming for U.S. President, as I recall, and they emphasized MOTHERHOOD.  How ironic, the pendulum has swung the otherway; same state (and possibly same practices), now it’s “Fatherhood.”  In Indiana and, thanks to the internet and increasing centralization in the U.S., and a less and less diverse U.S. Congress (it’s EXPENSIVE to get elected), nationwide.

I’m going to digress here, because the link to the “less and less diverse” article pictures Roland Burris, well-known in FATHERHOOD circles:

Senate likely to be less diverse after elections

By Deanna Bellandi, Associated Press Writer Fri Feb 5

CHICAGO – That historically all-white club known as the U.S. Senate is likely to lose what little diversity it has after November’s elections.

Two white men will be competing for President Barack Obama’s former seat in Illinois, now held by Roland Burris, the chamber’s lone African-American. Appointed by the scandal-tainted former governor, Burris won’t be seeking a full term.

In contests in Florida, Texas and North Carolina, black candidates face daunting challenges to joining the august body, from difficulty raising cash to lack of name recognition to formidable rivals.

Blacks comprise 12.2 percent of the nation’s population, but you wouldn’t know it in the 100-member Senate. Come next year, the total number could add up to zero.

“It certainly is not a desirable state of affairs,” said David Bositis, a senior political analyst with the Joint Center for Political and Economic Studies.

Bositis noted that blacks don’t make up the majority population in any state and in states where there are large numbers of blacks, as in the South, there are racial divisions that make getting elected difficult.

Florida is more likely to produce the next Hispanic senator than it is the next black senator…

Notice that this article is only talking about the ‘diversity’ of skin color, not the ‘diversity’ of political thought.

In truth, if the Republicans take away more seats from the Democrat super-majority, the Congress will be certainly be more diverse.

But of course in the minds of the Associated Press, the color of one’s skin is far more important than the content of their character.

{{Guess that was not a pro-Burriss based on his politics site.  However, he’s no less “fatherhood” than white guys….}}

Here’s to “Roland Burris fatherhood” google search:

U.S. Senator Roland Burris to Appear on a Special Father’s Day …

US Senator Roland Burris to Appear on a Special Father’s Day Edition of Chicago Attorney Jeffery Leving’s ‘Fathers’ Rights Legal Show’ on June 20th.
http://www.prnewswire.com/…/us-senator-roland–burris-to-appear-on-a-special-fathers-day-edition-of-chicago-attorney-jeffery-levings-fathers-right… – Cached

Attorney Jeffery Leving to Interview U.S. Senator Roland Burris on …

United States Senator Roland Burris (D-IL) will join Mr. Leving on his “Fathers’ Rights … Obama’s proposed $500 million budget for Responsible

Fathers Rights: Jeffery M Leving-Leading Family Law & Divorce …

U.S. Senator Roland Burris to Appear on(etc., etc.)

NOW, this is back about a CENTURY (almost) and talking about another kind of HOODlum (Pictured below, and self-described on the infamous site, below).  Look at how it was sold — temperance, and motherhood.

20thcentury

This exact figure was found in the book, “Inside Ku Klux Klan” by Paul Gillette ….. Women of the Klan in manyIndiana counties met with township trustees to … While girls were learning the virtues and tasks ofmotherhood and moral …. This meant stressing the virtues of Christian fundamentalism andtemperance. …
www.kkklan.com/various.htm

“God,” I hate to quote this, or even VISIT this site – but notice — described (in this “KKK” site) as historically just nice, law-abiding, religious folk contributing to charitable, children’s oriented, and church/school folks.  And that’s men & women BOTH…..

The following was taken from, “Hoods: The Story of the Ku Klux Klan”, by Robert Ingalls.

In Portland, Or., in the early 1920′s, the Ku Klux Klan pledged $50,000 to a children’s home and held a Christmas party featuring Kris Kringle. The Klan also organized a Klan Kommunity Kit to compete with the Community Chest, church visits became a kind of ritual. Typically, a small group of Klansmen would march down the aisle, hand the minister an offering of money, and silently depart. (page 39)

Protestant ministers quickly found that the Klan’s emphasis on religion helped swell church attendance. (page 41)

Similarly, the emphasis on DOMINATING women and keeping them in their “proper” roles is helping swell church tithes to this day, 2010….

Most Klansmen were law abiding, church going family men. Klansmen also hoped to eliminate vice and corruption through the ballot box. One Klansman declared, “Everybody knows that politiciansnowadays cater to all kinds of elements, mostly selfish, some corrupt, and some definitely anti-American. They cater to the vice vote and even to the violently criminal vote. What the Klan intends to do is make them pay some attention to the decent God fearing, law abiding vote.” (pages 42-43)

Mr. Smith goes to Washington.

During the 1920′s, the Klan was subjected not only to verbal abuse but also to physical assault in some areas. Bootleggers, for example, did not take kindly to the Klan’s attempts to enforce prohibition. When New Jersey’s Klan declared war on local bootleggers, the rum runners formed a defense council and publicly threatened to “Shoot to kill” anyone other then a policeman who interfered with their illegal traffic in liquor. (page 68)

The following was taken from, “Hooded Americanism, the History of the Ku Klux Klan”, by David M. Chalmers.

In Minneapolis, the Klan presented bibles to Methodist Churches and stressed “positive Protestantism”. (page 151)

In Indiana the Klan gathered contributions to build a new hospital. (page 165

NOW FATHERHOOD:

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  We (see blogroll to right) have blogged on this before.  See Wikipedia for Son (Evan) and Father (Birch):

Evan Bayh – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Birch Evans “Evan” Bayh III (pronounced /ˈbaɪ/, bye; born December 26, 1955) is an American Democratic politician who has served as the junior U.S. Senator …
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evan_Bayh – 17 hours ago – Cached – Similar

Birch Bayh – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Children, Evan Bayh (born 1955), Christopher Bayh (born 1982) … He is the father of former Indiana governor and current U.S. Senator Evan Bayh. …
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Birch_Bayh – Cached – Similar

And see “MamaLiberty”‘s Sept. 2009 weblog for commentary on this:

http://justice4mothers.wordpress.com/2009/08/30/fatherhood-initiative-bill-senator-evan-bayh-d-in-is-not-his-fathers-son/

This is from the Indiana Mothers For Custodial Justice, covering the recently introduced Fatherhood Initiative Bill:

Evan Bayh is Not His Father’s Son

I heard this comment in a meeting yesterday, and how true it is. ” Evan Bayh is not his father’s son.”

In Birch Bayh’s eyes, women should be given the same chances that men have.  Women deserved equality and this was evident in his legislation.

‘Father’ Of Title IX Honored

By Richard Veilleux

Former U.S. Sen. Birch Bayh of Indiana, considered the “father” of Title IX, the landmark federal legislation created more than 30 years ago that greatly expanded educational and athletics opportunities for girls and women, was honored during half-time of the women’s basketball game between UConn and Rutgers on Martin Luther King Day.

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Sen. Bayh also played a leadership role in many other areas and in framing two Constitutional amendments: the 26th Amendment, which lowered the legal voting age to 18, and the Equal Rights Amendment, a proposed Constitutional amendment guaranteeing equal rights to women, which has been ratified by 35 states, including Connecticut.

AND, now, the son….

na in the U.S. Senate from 1963 to 1981.But for Evan Bayh, the apple has fallen far from the tree…he supports fatherhood (not parenthood)…this being sent out in preparation of the reintroduction of a Fatherhood Initiative Bill into the U.S. Senate:

Senator Bayh sent out this wonderful message for fathers on Father’s Day to the Hoosiers he represents. He missed sending out a message for mothers…tells you a lot, doesn’t it. He is up for re-election next year….Hoosiers mothers, are you paying attention?

Watch out for these bill just introduced: S. 1309, introduced by Sen. Evan Bayh, (D-IN) and two co-sponsors.H.R. 2979, introduced by Rep. Danny K. Davis (IL-7) and 27 co-sponsors.President Obama told Senator Bayh last year he would sign the bill when he gets it.

The 2006 attempt at this bill (with U.S. Senator Barack Obama as one of the two co-sponsors) died:

The list below shows legislation in this and previous sessions of Congress that had the same title as this bill. Often bills are incorporated into other omnibus bills, and you may be able to track the status of provisions of this bill by looking for an omnibus bill below. Note that bills may have multiple titles.

109^th Congress: S. 3607: Responsible Fatherhood and Healthy Families Act Dead

This one needs to die too.

Is it fair for our government tax dollars to go help take children from mothers, to help fund a custody battle in court (among other ‘fatherly’ support things), help that is only available to fathers? These funds pay for dads to do this. All dads are not good (seeDastardly Dads). 

Abusive custodial fathers are constantly in the news, such as today [SEPT. 2009] :  New Mexico Custodial Father Murdered Allegedly By 10 Year Old Son Who Couldn’t Take Anymore Abuse and Jon Pomeroy, Father of Seattle-area Girl, Pleads Guilty to Starving Her.  Why should we help abusers take children from their moms?  TheAmerican Judge’s Association knows this is a problem, why do you want to fund abusers to take custody of the children?

Yes, Evan, your dad took time to be with you. He didn’t seek to take your mother out of your life though, did he? Yes, this apple has fallen very far from the tree.

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THESE ARE SIMPLY HOODLUMS.  From the One-God, Family, Tradition.

Watch the dichotomy between “faith” and “practice” as in, “fatherhood practitioners.”  Usually, it ends up hurting what they are supposedly protecting:  women & children.

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June 20, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Fathers Aren’t Necessary: Finally Getting Off the Patriarchal Bullshit Bandwagon

Courtesy Randi James

Not many people will argue against the necessity of having a father in one’s life. We have been so ingrained to accept this as a fact that to challenge this assertion would seem absurd. Everyone from from religious persons to psychologists will tell you how important a father is in a child’s development. But they have been lying. It has been a social control mechanism. Ohh, but get ready for the backlash…men don’t like being told that they aren’t important, and the women who support these notions, love to support these men (meaning, they, the women, will be angry, too)!

Yesterday’s article on CNN entitled, Kids of lesbians have fewer behavioral problems, study suggests, is sure to have "them" screaming mad:

A nearly 25-year study concluded that children raised in lesbian households were psychologically well-adjusted and had fewer behavioral problems than their peers.

The study, published Monday in the journal Pediatrics, followed 78 lesbian couples who conceived through sperm donations and assessed their children’s well-being through a series of questionnaires and interviews…

Children from lesbian families rated higher in social, academic and total competence. They also showed lower rates in social, rule-breaking, aggressive problem behavior.

Ouch! Kinda tramples on the male ego…at least those in the fathers’ rights camps…the ones that think single mother households are such a nasty infection, feminism is evil, and welfare lets women birth unlimited babies while replacing/eliminating the man. *eye roll*

But as I said, there are women who will be upset as well:

Wendy Wright, president of the Concerned Women for America, a group that supports biblical values, questioned the legitimacy of the findings from a study funded by gay advocacy groups.

"That proves the prejudice and bias of the study," she said. "This study was clearly designed to come out with one outcome — to attempt to sway people that children are not detrimentally affected in a homosexual household."

Wright questioned the objectivity of Gartrell’s research, saying the author can "cherry pick people who are involved and the info they release."

"In essence, this study claims to purport that children do better when raised by lesbians," she said…

Studies have shown that children thrive having both a mother and a father, Wright said.

"You have to be a little suspicious of any study that says children being raised by same-sex couples do better or have superior outcomes to children raised with a mother and father," she said. "It just defies common sense and reality."

Well, Wendy, unfortunately, we’d have to pull a hell of a lot of studies off the market for bias related to funding. In fact, we should probably stop letting the government give out grant monies for all these "fatherhood demonstration" projects…and while we are at it, pull money from religious groups as well. To which studies are you referring, Wendy? What were their funding sources? And why shouldn’t we be suspicious of studies regarding heterosexual, married persons? Not applying equal skepticism just defies commons sense and reality. If you really want to know about funding and bias, see the Let’s Get Honest blog.

And we also have a recent article entitled, Are Fathers Necessary?, which begins by talking about Barack Obama, who we already know to have some serious psychological issues regarding fatherhood (see Obama and His Fathercentricism):

There’s only one problem: none of this is proven. In the February issue of the Journal of Marriage and Family, Judith Stacey, a professor of sociology at New York University, and Timothy Biblarz, a demographer from the University of Southern California, consolidated the available data on the role of gender in child rearing. As Stacey and Biblarz point out, our ideas of what dads do and provide are based primarily on contrasts between married-couple parents and single-female parents: an apples-to-oranges exercise that conflates gender, sexual orientation, marital status, and biogenetic relationships in ways that a true comparison of parent gender—one that compared married gay-male couples or married lesbian couples to married heterosexuals, or single fathers to single mothers—would not. Most of the data fail to distinguish between a father and the income a father provides, or between the presence of a father and the presence of a second parent, regardless of gender.

So, the conclusion, once again, is that gender is irrelevant. Children do well when they have the emotional and financial support of whomever raises them (which still happens to be mothers, you know. I mean, this could change if men continued to increase their roles, beginning in infancy, but with women still being the ones bearing the pregnancy, and having the lactating breasts, it can be so damn hard to break this!) Damn, is this so hard to understand? How much more money must be spent covering this same shit?

See Also: Say What, Michael Lamb?: Two Parents Not Required

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June 20, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Stay-At-Home-Dads On The Rise? Not So Fast…

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Stay-At-Home-Dads On The Rise? Not So Fast…

June 20, 2010 by Elizabeth Black

Stay-at-home dads are all the rage in the media since this rotten economy has forced many unemployed men back in the ranks of the homestead. Judging from the plethora of Father’s Day articles celebrating stay-at-home-dads, you would think that dads across the United States are turning into Mr. Mom at an unprecedented rate.

From a profile in Michigan’s Lansing State Journal:

[For Chris Singer], raising Tessa–who has huge, Gerber-baby blue eyes, adorably chubby legs and a smile that could melt the hardest of hearts–is mission one. That means nights without sleep, trips to the library and zoo, loads of diapers, bottles, burp cloths and the conviction that he’s doing the right thing right now.

From columnist Jeff Gillenkirk in the San Francisco Chronicle:

The number of stay-at-home dads rose nearly 60 percent between 2003 and 2008 and is expected to keep rising as the economy and family roles continue to change.

Don’t be fooled. These feel-good stories are trotted out for Father’s Day, but the reality is not so rosy. It’s true enough that the tide of layoffs has hit men harder than women. But bona fide primary caregiving fathers are still rare, and a man doesn’t automatically become a primary caregiver of the children simply because he’s unemployed or underemployed. The horrid worldwide economy has simply created a larger number of unemployed/underemployed men who aren’t picking up the slack at home.

In The New York Times, author Catherine Rampell describes the more complex reality:

On average, employed women devote much more time to child care and housework than employed men do, according to recent data from the government’s American Time Use Survey analyzed by two economists, Alan B. Krueger and Andreas Mueller.

When women are unemployed and looking for a job, the time they spend daily taking care of children nearly doubles. Unemployed men’s child care duties, by contrast, are virtually identical to those of their working counterparts, and they instead spend more time sleeping, watching TV and looking for a job, along with other domestic activities.

So despite media fantasies, men getting laid off means that many moms are now acting as both the primary caregiver and primary wage earner. Slacker dads, get up off your duffs and do the right thing by supporting the mothers of your children both financially and in the homestead.

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June 20, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Want To Be A Good Dad? Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups

 

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Want To Be A Good Dad? Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups

By Trish Wilson

Over the past decade, fatherhood has been all the rage and dads are naturally the talk of pundits on Father’s Day. So let’s say you’re a divorcing dad and you’re having trouble coping. You look for help on the internet and discover the father’s rights movement.

Be warned – avoid father’s rights groups like the plague. According to the pro-feminist men’s group The National Organization For Men Against Sexism (NOMAS), “male supremacist groups (“Father’s Rights”) have caused unspeakable harm to our country and to our children by encouraging abusive fathers, often with little past involvement with their children, to seek custody as a tactic to pressure a mother to return or to punish her for leaving. “Shared parenting”, “friendly parent”, involvement of both parents and other concepts that seem fair and benevolent have instead been used to manipulate courts and legislatures to help abusive fathers. For instance, women are routinely denied custody of their children after being classified as “unfriendly” for asserting that the husband has abused them or their children.” Father’s rights groups prey on confused men angry and sad over the break-up of their relationships by stoking their rage and insecurities. In addition, father’s rights groups encourage men to fight for custody of their children by using harmful tactics that further erode their relationships with their ex’s – and by extension their children.

How can a dad – unemployed or working outside the home – be a good father? Not by fighting for custody or demanding “shared parenting” after divorce or breakup. The best way a dad can be a good father is by providing support to the mother of his children, including both financial and emotional support. According to Florida attorney Elizabeth Kates, “a father’s most important role, and the one common “father factor” in all research that indicates any correlation between father involvement or presence and positive effect on child well-being is: a father who emotionally cares for, financially supports, respects, is involved with, takes some of the work load off of, and generally makes life easier, happier and less stressful for. . . his children’s mother.”

If dad wants to make sure his children thrive he must do whatever he can to ensure that their mother is thriving. Stop fighting for “shared parenting” or sole custody if you are in court. Don’t badmouth their mother. Stop hiring paid mouthpieces that tout the latest psychological theory to show that the children are best off with a dad who had never acted as their primary caregiver. I know this will piss off lots of men but it is the truth.

Don’t believe me? How about the research?

A seven-year study by Dallas’s Timberlawn Psychiatric Institute found the one factor that was the most important in helping children become healthy, happy adults, was the quality of the relationship between their parents. This one factor was more important than giving kids hugs, providing good discipline, building their self esteem, or any other aspect of what is traditionally considered ‘good parenting’.” Other studies found that “the strongest single factor associated with resiliency in early years is social attachment to a primary caregiver. There is considerable evidence linking secure attachment to social and academic competence and positive developmental outcomes, such as improved communication, problem-solving, social relationships and grades” and “the single most important determinant of child well-being after divorce is living in a household with adequate income.”

Even the National Fatherhood Initiative agreed with the mother-needs-support assessment when it found that “the best thing a dad can do for his children is love their mother.” Researcher Michael Lamb, known for his studies of fatherhood, noted that “…the warmer, the richer, the more supportive the relationship he has with the mother, the better he is able to be a supportive and loving father for the child.”

So dads, the message is clear. If you want your children to grow up to be happy and healthy adults, the best thing you can do for them is to make sure that their mother is comfortable, healthy, and happy. When primary caregiving moms thrive, children thrive. And happy children enjoy their fathers more.

Happy Father’s Day.

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June 20, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

MALE INEQUALITY

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) Stuart Showalter Neo Nazi-Fathers Rights Advocate-Abusers Rights Advocate Glenn Sacks-Abusers Advocate,Right Wing Terrorist- Fathers Rights. Warren Farrell, Mike J Murphy, Jeremy Swanson, Mark K Godbey, Donald Tenn, Stan Rains, Richard A. Gardner coined the term Parental Alienation Syndrome Wayne Lavine

Featuring one of my not-so-favorite wannabe Court Whores, Dr. Warren Farrell (of Penthouse “incest” fame”):

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June 18, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

BEWARE SAN ANTONIO: CORRUPT BASTARD JUDGE SOL CASSEB III IS AT IT AGAIN

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FILED IN: BAD JUDGES, BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD, CHILD ABUSE, CHILD CUSTODY, CHILD CUSTODY BATTLE, CHILDREN’S RIGHTS, COERCIVE CONTROL, CORRUPT JUDGES, CORRUPT BASTARDS, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, FATHERS RIGHTS, GETTING SCREWED BY THE FAMILY COURTS, JEAN PAUL LACOMBE DIAZ,JUDGE SOL CASSEB, LAZY JUDGES, LEGAL ABUSE, NONCUSTODIAL MOTHERS, SAN ANTONIO, TEXAS

Remember little Jean Paul Lacombe Diaz? You may not, because there is not a lot of Congressmen or other government officials running around screaming to get this child back. Like they so willing do for fathers. Refresh your memory:

Eight months later, Jean Paul is still missing, thanks to Judge Sol Casseb III and his father-loving/mother-hating rulings.

Another dear mother now is facing the wrath of Judge Casseb today. Here are the details:

1. Judge Sol Casseb III, 288 District Court of Bexar County Texas in San Antonio signed a writ of attachment in an exparte hearing without even hearing the facts of the case. Only an attorney’s word acting on behalf of a rich controlling father just so that he could have the child a few days before having to return the child to the mother again for Summer visitation. The deputies ignored her outcries as they arrested her and never investigated the allegations. This despite the fact that Officer Metcalf had spoken to the child on the phone and assured her that she was going to personally investigate her allegations of abuse before proceeding with anything. (Boy does this sound familiar….is this actually SOP in San Antonio, stomping on child’s human rights?)

2. The child made numerous outcries of abuse non of which were taken seriously with the exception of her court ordered counselor and a counselor with the Justice Center in San Antonio. The child 11 years of age actively sought out adults and the police to tell them she was being abused.

3. The lawyer lied to the Judge regarding the condition of the situation. A writ of attachment is used exclusively in cases where there is mortal danger. Otherwise a “habious corpus” is used. The child was in danger from the father not the mother.

4. The child was visiting Mom and refused to board a plane to return to her father because she could no longer endure the abuse especially the with holding of food which made her constantly weak and dizzy. School was already out and in the past her classmates would share their lunch with her. The mother immediately turned the child into the police who could not convince the child to board the plane. Now there was no chance of finding food. She ate nonstop when with her mother and counselor’s advised not to regulate her intake. In her obsession with food one night the child while asleep got up grabbed a box of cookies and laid back down to sleep hugging the cookies all night.

5. The father presented the writ as evidence that the mother had kidnapped the child to a court in Sandoval County, New Mexico and falsely had the magistrate issue a warrant for the arrest of the mother. The father with the help of the lawyer made sure that when the mother turned over the child she would be arrested in front of the child in order to force his power and control over the child and mother.

6. The father had continually told the child that if she continued to tell others about what happened in the home he would kill the mother. The child sent an email to the father stating that she was staying to protect her mother from him.

7. The Father never contacted the court appointed counselor to ask about the child because he knew she would not be i agreement with his vindictive tactics.

8. The child is a football and still no one has sought out to see if she is well. She was scheduled to go back on May 31. She was arrested on June 8 and by court order starts her summer visitation on June 16 of which there is no legal basis to prevent the visitation as the mother has not a danger to the child on the contrary she is the only safe haven for this child. The father is unable to proceed with any proceedings in Bexar county against the mother because she has not committed any offenses. He is attempting to charge her with enforcement issues but they are minor and consist of nonsense like the child was denied passage on the plane because he failed to pay for the ticket and she missed a day of school, so he is acting the court to incarcerate the mother for 18 months on that charge.

9. The child was not in New Mexico when she refused to return and New Mexico has issued the warrant based on only the father’s word and a writ that was obtained without evidence and improperly. There is supposed to be a follow up hearing after a writ to determine the facts of the case and this has not happened.

No one is interested in the child’s allegations of abuse except the counselors. The well being of the child never came into play in Judge Casseb’s court room. Only paper work and lawyers without evidence. Instead of the father waiting to hear from the counselor and attempting to speak with the child through the use of the court appointed counselor the father used the court system as a sledge hammer to continue his coercive control of the child and the mother.

Someone needs to take Judge Sol Casseb out back behind the woodshed, and then fire his butt.  My heart is with this mother and daughter as she heads to New Mexico tonight to face the lies charges, with a $50,000 cash bond on her head.

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) Stuart Showalter Neo Nazi-Fathers Rights Advocate-Abusers Rights Advocate Glenn Sacks-Abusers Advocate,Right Wing Terrorist- Fathers Rights. Warren Farrell, Mike J Murphy, Jeremy Swanson, Mark K Godbey, Donald Tenn, Stan Rains, Richard A. Gardner coined the term Parental Alienation Syndrome

June 18, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Child watches helplessly as man rapes mother Police said an Indianapolis woman was raped early Wednesday morning on the near north side, with her son in the same room.

 

Indianapolis, IN – Police are searching for a rapist who attacked a woman inside her home. They say the victim’s young child became a witness to the crime. It is a crime unsettling to even the most veteran of officers.

"It is rather disturbing on a number of levels," said IMPD Sgt. Linda Jackson.

Early Wednesday morning in the 1000 block of West 33rd, police say a young mother was raped in front of her own son.

"I heard him screaming," said one neighbor.

Neighbors say they heard some type of commotion, but thought nothing of it, until now.

"It’s just sad ’cause she ain’t even been there a week. She ain’t even been there a good week," said neighbor Lisa Coleman.

"To know that it’s right across the street – could’ve been us – ’cause we were sitting here watching TV. This window was open," said neighbor Carmella Johnson.

In fact, the victim told police the suspect likely gained entrance through an open bedroom window. She was with her child on the couch in the living room when she says a masked man came in with a knife and threatened to cut her if she didn’t take her clothes off. As the rape occurred, police say, the suspect yelled at her son to shut up.

"During the course of the crime the suspect yelled at the child to be quiet to quit crying, when obviously the child was upset. There was something really bad going on in the house," said Sgt. Jackson.

"I can’t imagine," said Coleman.

On a street full of young children, it’s enough to startle already anxious neighbors who are currently reconsidering their decision to live here.

The victim told police the suspect took her cell phone as he left. She waited 24 hours to report the crime to police. The suspect’s description is vague, as he was wearing a mask.

 

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June 18, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | 1 Comment

BARBARA JOHNSON: MORE FALSE ALLEGATIONS?

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Disbarred Massachusetts attorney Barbara Johnson (of http://www.falseallegations.com), was on a BlogTalk Radio show with several battered mothers, including myself, this past Sunday evening.  The hosts of the show were very gracious to us, but had I known she was going to be on the show, I don’t think I would have participated as she is a staunch defender of fathers accused of abuse.  Okay…I know it happens sometimes, both ways, but it has been found through studies that fathers actually lie 16 times more than mothers with regard to abuse allegations.   However, Barbara claimed that 75 to 85% of all abuse allegations against fathers were false.  I about threw up when she said that.

Well, days later, in good ole’ Massachusetts, another father did his family in, and I thought of Barbara.   Yep, this is probably all a setup to make another father look bad….more false allegations.

Puke.

From Fox News:

Prosecutors Say Blunt Force, Sharp Objects Killed Family

June 17, 2010 – 7:51 PM | by: Molly Line

Prosecutors say the man accused of killing his family in a quiet Boston suburb used blunt force trauma and sharp objects to commit the murders. He then left two notes in the home confessing to the crime before fleeing.

Thomas Mortimer, IV, 43, was apprehended by members of the Bernardston Police Department in western Massachusetts, more than 100 miles from the house he shared with his wife, children, and mother-in-law in Winchester.

The bodies of the victims, two-year-old Charlotte Mortimer, her brother 4-year-old Thomas ‘Finn’ Mortimer V, their mother Laura Stone Mortimer, 41, and her mother, the children’s grandmother, Ragna Ellen Stone, 64, were found late Wednesday morning following a forced entry well-being check conducted at the family residence at 2 Windsong Lane.

Prosecutors say the murder was preceded by a fight between the suspect and his wife and that “ongoing marital discord” may help explain motive.

Releasing grisly new details in a press conference, Middlesex District Attorney Gerard Leone described the disturbing sight that first responders came upon as they entered the home.

“The medics found blood inside of the right entrance to the home which is next to the garage,” said Leone. “As they went further into the home what was revealed was the first extremely disturbing observation which was 4-year-old ‘Finn’ and his mother both lying in a pool of blood inside of the hallway of that home.”

They continued into the hallway and there they found the body of Ragna Ellen Stone just off to the side in the living room “bloodied, obviously dead at that time and covered by the oriental rug which had been usually placed in the front hall inside of the front door.”

Police continued to follow the evidence, tracing blood up to the second floor.

“That blood splatter and that blood trail led them to two-year-old Charlotte’s room where she was found dead in her crib in a pool of blood,” said Leone.

Upon a further search of the home investigators discovered two letters. One letter was hand written, left on a coffee table. Another identical letter, in typed form, was found in the kitchen.

Paraphrasing the letters, Leone says the defendant wrote “I did these horrible things. What I’ve done is extremely selfish and cowardly. I murdered my family.”

Apparent weapons have been seized from the home and prosecutors say there are signs Thomas Mortimer, IV, may have attempted to commit suicide.

The defendant will be arraigned tomorrow morning in Woburn Superior Court.

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June 18, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

NEW YORK COURT OF APPEALS ISSUES ANTI PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME RULING

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Human Rights: 1

Court Whores: 0

Here’s a case worth citing…

Matter of Schick v Schick

2010 NY Slip Op 03456

Decided on April 27, 2010

Appellate Division, Second Department

Published by New York State Law Reporting Bureau pursuant to Judiciary Law § 431.

This opinion is uncorrected and subject to revision before publication in the Official Reports.

STEVEN W. FISHER, J.P.

JOHN M. LEVENTHAL

ARIEL E. BELEN

SANDRA L. SGROI, JJ.

Anthony R. Daniele, New York, N.Y. (Myrna Felder of counsel), for appellant.

The Wallack Firm, P.C., New York, N.Y. (Robert M. Wallack of counsel), for respondent.

Barbara J. Caravello, Jamaica, N.Y., attorney for the child.

DECISION & ORDER

In a visitation proceeding pursuant to Family Court Act article 6, the mother appeals, by permission, as limited by her brief, from so much of an order of the Family Court, Queens County (McGrady, Ct. Atty. Ref.), dated August 14, 2009, as, after a hearing, upon, in effect, granting the father’s petition to enforce the visitation provisions of a judgment of divorce dated October 17, 2005, which incorporated, but did not merge, the parties’ stipulation of settlement dated May 5, 2005, in effect, awarded the father temporary custody of the subject child, denied her visitation with the subject child for a stated period of time, and directed the subject child and the father to participate in joint therapeutic counseling. By decision and order on motion of this Court dated September 3, 2009, so much of the order dated August 14, 2009, as awarded the father temporary custody of the subject child, denied the mother visitation with the subject child for a stated period of time, and directed the subject child and the father to participate in joint therapeutic counseling was stayed, pending the hearing and determination of the appeal.

ORDERED that the order dated August 14, 2009, is reversed insofar as appealed from, on the law, on the facts, and in the exercise of discretion, the petition is denied, and the proceeding is dismissed, without costs or disbursements.

The record supports a finding that the divorced parties’ son is alienated from the father, the noncustodial parent, with, among other factors, both the mother and father contributing to the deterioration of that relationship. Although the father has made serious and good faith attempts at reconciliation over the past several years, the son—who is now 17½ years of age, and is scheduled to graduate high school in June 2010, to attend a program in Israel commencing in August 2010, and thereafter to begin college—has strongly voiced, to both the Family Court and his appointed attorney, his objections to being forced to visit with his father. Despite repeated attempts by the Family Court over several years to ameliorate the alienation, and some therapeutic intervention, the son remains alienated.

While “[t]he Family Court has broad discretion in fashioning a remedy in matters of custody and visitation, with the paramount concern being the best interests of the child” (Matter of Pignataro v Davis, 8 AD3d 487, 488-489; see Matter of Plaza v Plaza, 305 AD2d 607), here, the best interests of the child do not require that the existing custody arrangement be modified (see Charpentier v Rossman, 264 AD2d 393; see generally Matter of Bonthu v Bonthu, 67 AD3d 906; Matter of Frey v Ketcham, 57 AD3d 543). Under these circumstances, it was an improvident exercise of discretion, unsupported by a sound and substantial basis in the record, to change custody to the father at this time, force the son to interact with the father, sever his contact with his mother and siblings for a three-month period, and compel him to undergo intensive therapeutic counseling. In giving due consideration to the wishes, age, and maturity of the son, and upon a review of the proceedings before the Family Court, we conclude that the order of the Family Court must be reversed (see Charpentier v Rossman, 264 AD2d 393; see generally Matter of Bonthu v Bonthu, 67 AD3d 906; Matter of Sinnott-Turner v Kolba, 60 AD3d 774, 775).

The parties’ remaining contentions have either been rendered academic or are without merit.

FISHER, J.P., LEVENTHAL, BELEN and SGROI, JJ., concur.

ENTER:

James Edward Pelzer

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June 18, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Peterson Case: "Dancing With Possums"

from Susan Murphy-Milano’s Journal

“Two Possum families finally have closure” quoted by none other than my favorite "legal marshmallow roaster" leading the 5 person defense team in the upcoming Drew Petersontrial, in an article about the recent search in Peoria, Illinois, written by Fatal Vows Author and journalist Joe Hosey.

If you recall, both Peterson and his legal marshmallow roaster did a public relationsdance in the media when the so called letter was received claiming Stacy Peterson was “sited.” And I mentioned it in a post back in February of 2008 excerpt below:

Stacy Peterson, wife #4 is still missing. I am wondering why the Illinois State police are not seeing through on the letter Peterson says he received from an unknown person from Peoria, Illinois back in November 12, 2007 who says they spotted "Stacy Peterson at a Kroger grocery store with a pudge." I will bet you anything Drew Peterson is behind this mysterious letter. An abuser always wants to leave a crumb behind ( its a catch me if you can ego trip)and in my opinion this mystery letter, is no mystery at all , if it’s postmarked, this should lead police to where Stacy was buried. Isn’t Drew’s favorite show C.S.I. anyway? Or was this done by someone else in an old case he once worked on in the early days of his career? You can read that post HERE

It was discussed on my Monday Evening radio show that aired on the Kathleen Saviocase with the Cold Case Institute Director, Sheryl McCullom ,who strongly suggested that the “prosecutors need to tear down the case and start over.” We both agreedPeterson was likely behind that letter he supposedly received shortly after Stacy vanished. I meant the one Peterson turned over, of course, to his counsel who then made it public for several weeks of play in the media.

While the legal marshmallow roaster and his team decides what color fonts they want on that impending Google Internet site, sending a team to Peoria was a brilliant move on the part of Investigators.

If you consider that during the 18 months (prior to his arrest) Peterson was a free man, not once did this piece of repulsive hot air bag go out and look for his missing wife, Stacy. A person, in my opinion of course, is not able to look for something, or in this case, someone, if they are not able to be found because it is not possible. If you remember, this grieving husband and father, (get out the box of Kleenex everyone), dated other women, trolled Internet sites and got engaged. Wow, now there is a reality television show in the making. Perhaps we can ask Bruce Beresford-Redman (former producer of the show Survivor) to be the producer. You remember him, he is the guy who took his wife on a second honeymoon to Mexico and she was founddead in a sewage drain.

Back to the insensitive remarks of the legal marshmallow roaster who has been known to spit out coffee on a computer screen from time to time. "For those two possum families, they at least received closure." Sadly, it is more than the 4 children of thesetwo women Kathleen Savio and Stacy Peterson received, wouldn’t you agree?

[Head over to Women and Crime Ink to read my latest post on the Christopher Vaughn case "Claiming Bloody Innocence" another tragic case awaiting trial also in Will County, IL]

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June 18, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment

"My Cry For Help"

“Times up” by Susan Murphy-Milano

By Susan Murphy-Milano

I am posting this in hopes you will take a moment to help me.

I can jump up and down all day long and never drive the point across enough thatviolence in the home is the slaughter of innocent victims and their children dying at the hands of men who believe they hold the ultimate power to play God, killing and erasing human lives.

I am embarrassed to this day, although more than 20 years have passed to say how I became an expert in the issue of abuse, stalking and intimate partner homicide andofficer related domestic violence. I am ashamed to have grown up in a home where the man who gave me life, a law enforcement officer, my father, regularly terrorized and beat my mother.

As a small child the only aide I could offer my mom was to pull the chair from the kitchen table up to the telephone so I could call someone for help while my father was beating my mother bloody. The moment I found my mom’s body lying in her own pool of blood dead of a single gunshot wound to the head I lost my entire world.

After my parents died I would create a world like no other, a world I knew all too well. A world under my watch a woman and her child would no longer be terrorized, beaten or living in constant fear. A world where prosecutors and law enforcement did their jobswhen I took a victim’s case of stalking or domestic violence. A world where when a woman was murdered I stood with the family demanding answers and justice. A world where thousands of victim’s calls for help regardless of the hour were answered and directed to services 24/7 and are thriving because of it today. A world created because I refused to allow another woman like my mother to die on my watch.

Fast forward to my life today, twenty years later working towards the same goals with a mad scientist like fever to come up with the cure. A cure created to protect victims of domestic violence and stalking alive away from dangerous controlling and potentially lethal abusers. A cure, that if I cannot prevent a tragedy because I am unable to be there personally directing the victim to safety, at least when they are found murdered, or they are reporte d missing by the loving husband or concerned boyfriend, justice will prevail even from the grave.

Yes, the cure is here and now available.

Spread the word about the prescription. I need your help to accomplish this important milestone. Without you the victims will continue filling the cemetaries.

I could ask you to do a shout-out to Oprah,Gayle King, Jane Valdez- Mitchell,Anderson Cooper, Bill O’Reilly, Lis Wheil or Nancy Grace that may be effective if your email can get past the spam filter, providing its read, and a live person responds, but that is not as powerful as your voice.

Each time you read a story on the Internet of another stalking or domestic violencerelated death post a comment with the link to the “Time’s Up” book and Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and Video which has step-by-step instructions in Chapter 4 for a victim to create (example of the video is below). Let others know the prescription is nowavailable for world-wide use to every victim of stalking and domestic violence. Send an email each time to a reporter after you see a story on domestic violence and tell them about the prescription. Write the producers of news and crime shows so they mention it each time they discuss a tragic case where another woman has been murdered and the person of interest has yet to be arrested. Ask bloggers, Internet sites the drudge report,huffington post, smoking gun, mom logic or reporters, radio show personalities to consider writing a review on the information and strategies in the book. Also, if you would, leave a comment on Amazon.com.

Time’s Up’ is more than a manual, a handbook, it’s more than just another book, it’s a ‘Lifesaver,’ a surefire roadmap chocked full of ways to document evidence and protect yourself; in protecting yourself, you are also protecting your children from a life with an abuser. With your help we will eventually see a copy of ‘Time’s Up’ in every library, every police department, every school, every church and every shelter where those who need help can utilize it and protect themselves from an abuser.

"Times Up" needs national exposure. It wasn’t written to impress theprofessionals. It was written to save lives.” Peter Hyatt, Investigator, State of Maine Statement Analysis Labratory for Scientific Interrogation.

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June 15, 2010 | Categories: Uncategorized | Leave a comment